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In response to "Communication, friendship, kindness, -- nm" by the liioulu with swag

respect is huge. and also sort of being on the same trajectory. like, people who are complacent are happiest with people who are complacent. people

Posted by beer on the porch loves mandy lane (aka amanda) Jul 27 '09, 17:47

who are driven are happiest with people who are driven.

and fighting. fighting is important.

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... unless that person is trying to change. then it can be helpful to be around an opposite. -- nm - Guy Jul 27, 17:52 4
- "you're everything I don't want to be, and that's driving me to change" is not the key to a healthy relationship. -- nm - beer on the porch loves mandy lane Jul 27, 17:53 3
  - replace 'trying' with 'wanting'? - Guy Jul 27, 17:55 2
    - well, yes. but that'd be obvious from the get go. see? so you wouldn't be different, because she'd make you the same. - beer on the porch loves mandy lane Jul 27, 17:56 1
      - The best relationships are the ones where you are something more together. - the liioulu with swag Jul 27, 18:21
That last bit, not so sure about. - the liioulu with swag Jul 27, 17:51
This has to be at least partly true; bu yet, the reason my marriage failed is because we were both complacent. (Well, part of the reason, I guess.) I - mara Jul 27, 17:50 8
- but you both knew you wanted more. see? you weren't giving that to each other. (I hate that I'm deconstructing your marriage. I respect you far too - beer on the porch loves mandy lane Jul 27, 17:52 1
  - I can never be offended by anything you post. :-) -- nm - mara Jul 27, 18:30
- Does divorce feel worse than this? Or about the same? -- nm - Hotkiss Jul 27, 17:51 5
  - Things usually feel worse when you are young like you. Stuff like this seems like the end of the world, but with age you gain perspective. - con_carne Jul 27, 18:02
  - Stop trying to quantify the pain, and work on ending it. - Inigo Jul 27, 18:01
  - Worse than melodrama? Yes. -- nm - David Jul 27, 17:57 1
  - *laughing* come on -- nm - CQ Jul 27, 17:55
  - you're 21. mara was married for years. there is no comparison. -- nm - beer on the porch loves mandy lane Jul 27, 17:53

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respect is huge. and also sort of being on the same trajectory. like, people who are complacent are happiest with people who are complacent. people

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