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Anti-Musk post: My 17 year old son told my wife and I that he has gender fluidity.

Posted by Inigo (aka Inigo) Jul 25 '24, 09:17

That he's (I say he because he doesn't want to change pronouns yet) not comfortable with some of his physical masculine features.

Although, it was a surprise to us, we were also very supportive. It was obvious that he's thought about this for a long time, and worked up the courage to tell us. My wife showed him how to shave his arms and legs, and we got him some shaving gear.

He's had friends over to help him braid his hair, paint his nails and dabble in make-up. No matter where this is going I'll always be supportive of him.

That said, our society is terrible and dangerous to trans people. So, the worry for me about his long term safety has increased 10 fold. I've told him about those fears I have while also making sure he knows that I'll always love and help him.

I don't where this is going long term, but I hope he gets to be happy in college and beyond that.

Responses:

well done. we fumbled through our experiences with our daughter but learned a lot and came out better on the other side of it. you nailed it -- nm - oblique Jul 25, 10:24 3
- I wouldn't say nailed it, but thank you. - Inigo Jul 25, 10:32 2
  - Unsurprisingly, it is all about expectations. You had a vision of what your son's life would be whether that is school, marriage, relationships, etc. - oblique Jul 25, 10:35 1
    - I need to remind myself, sometimes more than once daily, that for almost every thing, it’s not my place to solve, manage, decide, or fix. -- nm - Landbeck Jul 25, 10:38
Awesome, the most important part is that he's happy / happier. -- nm - JaxSean Jul 25, 10:07
This is a lot. I wish the best for you and them. -- nm - David Jul 25, 09:56
I wish the best for you and him. Glad you are so supportive. That has made a difference in his comfortability with being who he is -- nm - Pippy Jul 25, 09:33
I have 3 kids and each of them is some degree of LGBTQ+. - Mop🧹 Jul 25, 09:27 2
- I was definitely guilty of oversharing here during my divorce (which was 15 years ago!), and you're right that a lot of this is just... - Inigo Jul 25, 09:38 1
  - Holy shit - that was 15 years ago???? good lord. -- nm - Turd Ferguson Jul 25, 09:53
Just have his back. Logan shaves his legs and we have asked about other aspects. But he seems to just really dislike leg hair. I actually agree! - LFG Jul 25, 09:26
The beauty of the timing of this is that college - that's a chance to be whoever you want to be. It's a great time to reinvent yourself. nm - Turd Ferguson Jul 25, 09:25
A thousand times yes. Love them as best you can, and when you realize you get anything wrong, apologize and change. Keep loving. -- nm - Landbeck Jul 25, 09:23
you are awesome parents. give him a hug from us - decline Jul 25, 09:21
Really glad that he felt comfortable to tell you. That you've been supportive like this is terrific. I hope that others can be as well - prayformojo 🐵 Jul 25, 09:20
👍 -- nm - mud Jul 25, 09:19
He is very lucky to have great parents. -- nm - Andie Jul 25, 09:19 7
- this -- nm - Beaker 🍺 Jul 25, 09:59
- Yup. -- nm - Krusty Jul 25, 09:58
- This. -- nm - kelly Jul 25, 09:53
- Very much this. -- nm - znufrii Jul 25, 09:51
- ♥️ Thank you! And thank you to everyone else. This is such a great support system. -- nm - Inigo Jul 25, 09:41
- This. -- nm - Strongbad Jul 25, 09:41
- This. -- nm - Marlowe Jul 25, 09:36

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