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In response to
"Hey guys. So, a friend is having bottom surgery today (m to f) and I am struggling with feelings."
by
loosilu
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My thoughts on the subject
Posted by
Fuzzy (aka mrfuzzy)
Aug 29 '24, 09:39
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You don't need to answer here, but consider for yourself - are you upset because you don't think people should transition? Are you upset because you don't think she should transition? Are you upset because your friend is changing and that will impact you? Are you upset because you think she is making a mistake and you're struggling to accept the powerlessness you feel?
I think this may be smaller to parents watching their kids make mistakes. We want to stop them and make them listen to us. But ultimately we need to find a way to hope for the best and show them that we will still be there when they need us.
It's SO hard to do. It's really hard to watch it happen. If the relationship is worth it to you, you find a way to accept that it has changed and you embrace the new, different relationship.
But it's ok to not be ok. If this weren't a fraught topic and instead was someone whose personality changed in other ways, would you feel this angst? Or would you mourn the loss of your the friendship you had and begin to move on?
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