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In response to
"Hey you there in the friend zone, question."
by
Hotkiss
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Here is the deal. I think I am the exception to the rule.
Posted by
Redmond (aka redmond)
Sep 24 '09, 22:16
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I had two women stick me there that I really fell for. First one was really bad. I tried to break off the friendship because it was extremely painful. (This is Seattle Woman BTW). Eventually she became (and is) kind of like a Sister now. She is someone I can tell things to that I can't really talk to family about and vice verse. Makes me think now if I was really into her because I loved her or because I couldn't have her. Probably the latter in retrospect. I have NO desire to date her, and am not even physically attracted to her that way anymore. Who knows how that happened but I am glad it did. When she would go on a date it was horrid to know about.
The second one was a short romance that she broke off. She is a great friend now. The pain from that only lasted a few weeks. Once again when she started to date other guys it was the worst. However, it doesn't bother me anymore.
So, to answer your question. Most guys (in my opinion) cannot turn it off. I did somehow. And to all the doubters that will tell me I am kidding myself I will say, "no I am not". I can tell I am over them because there is no pain anymore, only a warm friendship with them. The lack of jealously makes me know I have moved on.
I am also friends with my very first love still. That has relationship has lasted over 25 years. I was friends with my ex wife for the longest time but she couldn't move on. I broke that off in the interest of her being able to move on. I called her this last March on her birthday and she sent me an email after telling me she was crying. She was living with a guy so I decided that is done. I don't want to screw up her being able to move on. That said, if she was able to handle it I would have no problem being friends with her.
I have no problems being in the friend zone if there is no mental anguish involved.
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