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In response to "lyc" by tRuMaN

Parts of that sound very familiar.

Posted by pmb (aka pmb) Sep 9 '08, 08:24

Maybe a separation isn't the worst thing. Some perspective and distance might help. Obviously I can't know for sure. Counseling is worthwhile and I again suggest that you do some on your own as well. You will come out the other side of this a better and happier person. You don't realize how much the conflict and issues has weighed you down and made you unhappy until you come through it. It sounds like there are no kids involved (I don't recall). If that's the case it simplifies things significantly. Recognize that you have choices here and your world is open right now either to make a relationship with your wife that works for both of you or to find a new relationship in the future, with the wisdom that comes with experience, that can be different and fulfilling. But counselling will help you sort through these things. It is well worth it.

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I do plan on the counseling bit, and there are no kids (thank god for that) -- nm - tRuMaN Sep 9, 08:40 5
- Without kids it is much simpler. - pmb Sep 9, 11:32 2
  - This is excellent. The "failure" aspect is absolutely what drives most people and sticks with them afterward. -- nm - CrankYanker Sep 9, 12:31 1
    - yup. people all too often confuse longevity with success. and vice versa. -- nm - znufrii Sep 9, 12:58
- Don't mean to be a downer, but "no kids" sometimes means a nastier breakup because you don't have anyone else to consider. -- nm - CrankYanker Sep 9, 08:49 1
  - in this case, I think that is what helped her make her decision - tRuMaN Sep 9, 08:55

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