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In response to "I do plan on the counseling bit, and there are no kids (thank god for that) -- nm" by tRuMaN

Without kids it is much simpler.

Posted by pmb (aka pmb) Sep 9 '08, 11:32

I think people (and guys especially) get hung up on the idea of a marriage "failing". We're not programmed for failure so we fight it. Regardless of what happens, you haven't failed. You had a relationship that lasted quite a while that you learned from. The thing to consider is whether you're happy and whether you can be happy in the marriage. It's worth working through things to see if you can. But sometimes I think we hang on because we're supposed to, or because we can't stand failing rather than because it's really the best thing for us. Spend some time thinking (if you can. I know it will take time) about what you want and what will make you happy. Not just about what you're losing and what you "should" do.

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This is excellent. The "failure" aspect is absolutely what drives most people and sticks with them afterward. -- nm - CrankYanker Sep 9, 12:31 1
- yup. people all too often confuse longevity with success. and vice versa. -- nm - znufrii Sep 9, 12:58

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