friday hax chat wedding etiquette q: the invitation was "BYOB" yay or nay?
Posted by
shamu (aka chris)
Oct 2 '09, 10:56
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State of Shock, USA: I'm writing early, but really hope you see this and can answer on Friday.
I just received a wedding invitation in which the Bride and Groom request BYOB. I am not making this up. I understand that times are tight etc., but what do you think the etiquite is for this. The wedding and reception are in the same room so do I leave my beverages in the car and go out and get them after the service? Do I bring in a cooler and put it beside me? Do I have to share with the other guests or just the Bride and Groom?
I'm trying to keep a sense of humor about this, but I really would like to know what you think I should do. I did consider just not bringing anything, but to tell you the truth, I think I'm going to need it.
Thanks.
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Responses:
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Meh, it's better than a completely dry wedding. I've had friends who've literally tailgated a wedding before. Because there was no alcohol in the reception hall. -- nm
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Ender
Oct 2, 11:27
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I just had this happen to me, actually. I vote tacky. nm
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Dignan
Oct 2, 11:05
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I don't find this shocking. Call the bride or groom and see what they advise in terms of logistics. If you just show up with some bottles...
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Dr.Vermin
Oct 2, 11:03
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"How do I tell them that we just want cash?" -- nm
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oblique
Oct 2, 11:03
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its a version of a pot luck, most eq books say tacky but its common in the midwest and working poor areas
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zeitgeist
Oct 2, 11:03
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I don't know the rest of the story. Are these people on a shoe string budget for the wedding?
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amoxy
Oct 2, 11:02
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If these people are important enough to you that you want to celebrate their wedding, then deal with it.
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ty97
Oct 2, 11:01
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I don't think the guests should BYOB - but I'd like to know what type of wedding reception it is. If it's really informal, then just go with it and
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Roger More
Oct 2, 11:00
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I've been to a wedding reception that was a bbq. It covers the whole spectrum. This is only tacky if the reception is at the Waldorf in NYC. -- nm
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Mop (235 lbs)
Oct 2, 11:00
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should have done cash bar. -- nm
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loosilu
Oct 2, 11:00
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Odd, but not a deal breaker. Sounds like the whole thing is less formal overall. -- nm
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Reagen
Oct 2, 10:59
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that's not the guests' job. -- nm
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Don Homer
Oct 2, 10:58
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Cheaper than a cash bar, for everyone. Doesn't seem like a big deal. -- nm
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Shaun
Oct 2, 10:58
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