bonus hax chat q: she can't afford to spend T'giving w/ her friend (for the first time in 17 years). friend is throwing a hissy
Posted by
shamu (aka chris)
Oct 2 '09, 12:04
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Am I being a brat?: For the past 17 years I've spent Thanksgiving with a friend and her husband who live a short plane ride away. This year is different: They moved into a smaller place, so I'd have to stay in a hotel. One of my pets developed a health condition that requires hiring someone to administer medication (vs. having a friend check up on them once or twice). And the air fare has gone up considerably. This means that a trip that used to cost me $350 will now cost over $1000. So I told them I'm not coming because of the expense.
My friend is having a hissy fit -- I can't break with tradition, they're so looking forward to it, etc., etc. I see them at least one other time per year, so this isn't our only chance to get together. And I offered to come at another time when I can stay longer (and do other things than eat turkey and help her put on her annual post-Thanksgiving party). But no, nothing else will do than for me to spend big bucks to be there on -this specific- weekend.
I'm grateful for their hospitality over the years, and I don't want to ruin a 30+ year friendship. I could come up with the money, but frankly I resent being expected to just so we can perpetuate a "tradition." Am I a spoiled brat?
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Responses:
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mail a blowup doll in your stead and tell them to pucker up and stick it in your chair. -- nm
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Max
Oct 2, 12:20
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if it meant sooo much to such that other "real friend", she would offer to split the cost. otherwise, shut the frickin' eff up. -- nm
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zork
Oct 2, 12:17
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No, she's being sensible. While it's flattering her friend wants to see her so badly, a real friend would understand there are economic realities to
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Andie
Oct 2, 12:13
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No, she isn't spoiled. She's being pragmatic while her friend is being emotional.
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TWuG
Oct 2, 12:07
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The friend is being a spoiled brat. 3x the cost + health of pet. F@ck her. -- nm
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oblique
Oct 2, 12:05
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Host it yourself and ask them to come to you. blow hissy fit if they refuse. -- nm
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Max
Oct 2, 12:05
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