boston.com Love Letter response to Too Many Party Girls Guy
Posted by
Diva (aka Diva)
Nov 3 '09, 13:33
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Party friends, eh? Sounds like you were having quite the celebration. I have to wonder how many party friends you had, AG.
Your gut is right -- you do not have to share the content of these texts with your girlfriend. The last thing she needs is to see a bunch of racy messages from your past flings. I�m all for honesty and sharing, but you don�t want to be cruel.
Just tell her, in one blanket statement, that if and when you get contacted by these women from your past, you�ll make it clear that you�re no longer available. Then do that. As you get these texts, write back to these women that their messages are no longer welcome or appropriate. Eventually, they�ll go away.
And really, if it�s not too much trouble, just change your cell number and get a new e-mail account. Your real friends and family will learn your new contact information. Your old �party friends� probably don�t need to. Changing your number would show some real commitment, wouldn�t it?
Your girlfriend has been in your life for a year. She obviously knows that you had an active social life before the two of you became exclusive. Maybe you can tell her your concerns about honesty vs. cruelty. Maybe you can set some disclosure boundaries together.
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