holiday hax chat q: she and hubby are expecting in feb. but hubby believes it's wrong to "lie" to kids about the whole Santa thing
Posted by
mr. squiggles (aka chris)
Dec 4 '09, 12:08
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Christmas Town, North Pole: Carolyn: Happy Holidays! I submitted this question a couple of weeks ago and didn't get an answer, but hoping it'll be more topical for today's chat. So:
My husband and I are expecting our first baby in February (yay!). As the holidays approach, I have discovered that my husband thinks it's wrong to "lie" to children and tell them there's a Santa. He's very forthright and honest --- it's one of the things I most admire about him, and something he feels is basic to his character. He also had issues with dishonesty and secrecy from his own parents (on a way different level --- hidden former marriages and step-siblings, etc.), and is resolved not to repeat that. So, I get it.
On the other hand, I have wonderful magical memories of my Dad playing out the Santa fantasy with us, leaving out cookies the night before, coming out on Christmas morning to find the cookies half eaten and presents with tags from Santa. I don't recall any feelings of betrayal finding out the truth, as I got older, just warm feelings of protecting my Dad from knowing I knew, so we could still have the tradition. I want my child to have that.
But I'm not sure it's possible, if Mom is leaving out cookies, and Dad is saying "mmm, I'm sure going to enjoy eating those cookies after you go to bed."
Any suggestions from you or the peanuts on how to handle this one?
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