Love Letters response to Tolstoyesque "Wondering What Meredith Would Do".
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Diva (aka Diva)
Dec 16 '09, 12:36
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WWMWD, what would Meredith do? Hmm.
Well, I�d probably call Mr. Doctor and say: �Hey there, Mr. Doctor, I was wondering if you�d like to grab a late-night dinner and movie when you have a night off. I don�t mind if it has to be at 10 p.m. on a Tuesday, after you�ve removed someone�s spleen. I get that you have a job with weird hours. I�d just like to hang out. And if dinner-and-a-movie is too exhausting after a day of removing spleens, we can stick to dinner. A person�s got to eat, right?�
I�d be that literal. Because really, why not? He either wants to hang out or he doesn�t. If his reaction to being asked is to run in the other direction and to assume that you want to marry him, let him run.
But if he likes you and is open to getting to know you, he should jump on the invite. Why wouldn�t he want to be asked out by someone he likes? If this has been about his awful schedule, he�ll probably say, �I want to hang out, too, and thanks for not minding that it has to be at a weird hour.� Smitten is smitten. If he�s smitten, he�ll be in. If this was about convenience and sleazy bar hookups, well, asking him out on a respectable date is a quick way to get to the truth.
I think your hesitation is less about being traditional and more about fearing rejection. And I totally get that. I�d ask him out � but my fingers would probably be shaking while I dialed his number.
You set a precedent that it was OK to text and meet up without plans. It�s time to demonstrate that you�d like a bit more effort.
And -- good that you held off on R-rated behavior until finding out what�s what. I think that dialing his number would feel even riskier if you hadn�t.
� Meredith
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