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In response to "My post on b2 wasn't HK specific, it was to con_carne's statement that being single or not will be (should be) a factor when you travel." by Stephen

i don't think you can say 'no' outright in every case. different people want different things.

Posted by Andie (aka Andie) Jan 12 '10, 12:48

would i council someone desperately in love and happy to break up before a trip? no. but they would never consider it. there is no point being with someone if there is a really good reason (no matter what is) to not be. you aren't doing them any favours.

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let's just call it what it is, there is no legit reason to break up with someone to go on a trip - groiny Jan 12, 12:51 2
- Sure there is. A long trip mean emails, calling, maintaining the emotional side of youre relationship. If you don't want to do that, break it off -- nm - Roger More Jan 12, 12:55 1
  - bah, I do not buy it. - groiny Jan 12, 12:57
But if there's no good reason to be with them the (a) trip shouldn't be the impetus to end the relationship. -- nm - Stephen Jan 12, 12:51 7
- Sometimes people need a crossroads to decide what they really want. - pmb Jan 12, 12:54
- It needs *an* impetus. Otherwise, coasting along for fun seems fine. It's not turned sour, it's just not sweet enough to wait for. -- nm - TFox Jan 12, 12:52 5
  - right. sure, we can all say 'you should just break up with X", but you need a reason. both for yourself and for them. - Andie Jan 12, 12:54 4
    - so we're saying that hk lacks the maturity to see that the relationship was no good without the threat - amanda Jan 12, 12:56 3
      - *i'm* not saying that. i'm saying if she doesn't want to wait two months, then it's not a relationship worth waiting for. - Andie Jan 12, 12:57 1
        
        yeah, pretty much every person I dated prior to being 30. nm -- nm - groiny Jan 12, 12:58
      - i would say, conversely, that she's gained the skill, knowledge and/or confidence to be able to pull the trigger on ending something... - TFox Jan 12, 12:57

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i don't think you can say 'no' outright in every case. different people want different things.

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