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Well, if you're "friends" but you don't know your "friend"s wife at all, then you aren't really all that great friends, right? -- nm

Posted by TFox Jan 28 '10, 07:28

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- reading the article, her central thesis is that married men who are "making new friends" with single women and not mentioning their family... - TFox Jan 28, 07:34 16
  - right. we aren't talking about co-workers going for lunch, or, an old college friend in town and you meet up for dinner, or whatever. -- nm - Andie Jan 28, 08:01
  - Yes, indeed. Are they taking off their wedding rings in order to make these friends? -- nm - Beryllium Jan 28, 07:35 14
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      - right. "disclosure", without disclosure. "i'm not doing anything wrong. i'm wearing my wedding ring, for pete's sake." -- nm - TFox Jan 28, 07:39 12
        
        it can be slightly sketchy, but not as horrible as its being presented in the article I think. - znufrii Jan 28, 07:43 4
        
        Again, in the article, the "calling me just to say hi" is what kicked it off. and i don't think that is an overreaction. -- nm - TFox Jan 28, 07:53 3
        
        In that specific instance, yes. - znufrii Jan 28, 08:00 1
        
        they are defining "friends" as friends, not casual acquaintances. and in that instance almost always, it's douchy behavior. that's the point. -- nm - TFox Jan 28, 08:04
        
        oh boy would I be in trouble. nm -- nm - groiny Jan 28, 07:56
        
        I generally agree, buit also I wouldn't be comfortable talking about my wife (beyond generalities) with people who haven't met her. -- nm - Roger More Jan 28, 07:41 6
        
        but once you progressed to being "friends", you would. -- nm - TFox Jan 28, 07:56 5
        
        I was thinking from the context of being the fundraising guy who is always asked where his wife is. But even so, I wouldn't talk about her in detail. - Roger More Jan 28, 08:00 4
        
        I dont' think a married man should be expected to talk about his wife at every opportunity. - znufrii Jan 28, 08:03 3
        
        'every opportunity', god no. but, if i'm going to be friends with someone, my marital status is something they would know. -- nm - Andie Jan 28, 08:04 2
        
        I think the issue here is more involved than just knowing someone's marital status. - znufrii Jan 28, 08:15 1
        
        i don't think anyone said you can't have friends that your spouse doesn't share. -- nm - Andie Jan 28, 08:26

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