Love Letter response to Was Dating Mr. Unreliable (Seems as though he was working her nerves for a while.)
Posted by
Diva (aka Diva)
Feb 8 '10, 09:05
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DNR, here's what I have to say about this relationship: do not resuscitate (sorry, you threw me that softball).
Wanna know why I think you should drop this man? Because when I looked for your e-mail address to let you know that I'd be running your letter, I noticed that you had e-mailed me twice before about the same issues -- once in December and again in January. I didn't get the chance to run those letters, but my thought is, if you were miserable enough to write to me on three separate occasions about the same issue, it's time to admit that nothing has changed.
I'm not sure that this is about him not being into you. It seems to me that this is about his inability to deal with his life. Balancing a new relationship and kids isn�t easy. I�m sure this guy is being pulled in many directions. But he's a grown-up and he should be better at this. He should be able to honor his family's needs and his own health without making you wait on a couch for 45 minutes.
If you want to be someone's priority, this isn't the relationship for you. If this is just about your insecurity about his feelings for you -- and you could live with his flakiness if you knew he really cared for you -- you might want to talk to him some more about his motives.
But really, this is the beginning of the relationship, the time that's supposed to be mostly kisses, bubbles, and butterflies. If you've spent most of the three months thinking, "dude not reliable," I give you permission to go look for another dude. I�m not sure this man�s intentions are evil, but I am sure he isn't meeting your expectations. And your expectations don't sound crazy to me.
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