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Why can't he leave when he's ready and she get a taxi or a ride from a dd/gf later if she wants to stay out?

Posted by Diva (aka Diva) Feb 16 '10, 08:40

This isn't rocket science.

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she has to clarify for herself if his non-drinking is the problem, or the non-socializing. because that's determines whose issue this is. - Andie Feb 16, 08:51
If you're seeing a movie with your partner, and one of you is really enjoying it while the other one detests it, the one who detests it doesn't - Roger More Feb 16, 08:48 6
- I just don't see the big deal of leaving a bar when you're ready to leave a bar as long as both parties are agreed. - Diva Feb 16, 08:51 4
  - I think it's easier in theory than in practice - by leaving, he'd be basically saying "you're no fun any more" -- nm - Roger More Feb 16, 08:54 2
    - not necessarily - when i leave earlier it's because I'm tired and i want to go home. But again, my sitch is probably different from the LW. -- nm - Diva Feb 16, 08:57 1
      - For sure - I was talking about his situation, where he's already made it clear he doesn't enjoy hanging out with her when she's drinking - Roger More Feb 16, 09:01
  - me either. especially if they live together. it's not like they won't end up in the same place. -- nm - Andie Feb 16, 08:52
- Alcohol has it's own set of rules. -- nm - Spawn Feb 16, 08:51
because he would still feel responsible for her safety. (to provide one hypothetical) -- nm - znufrii Feb 16, 08:43 2
- i doubt that sincerely, if he has no problem letting her go out on her own now. -- nm - TFox Feb 16, 08:45 1
  - if he doesn't join her, he's not enabling her behaviour, therefore he doesn't need to feel responsible for her decisions. -- nm - znufrii Feb 16, 08:47
It's not rocket science; it's emotion surgery. -- nm - Beryllium Feb 16, 08:40 8
- *ding* -- nm - Spawn Feb 16, 08:44
- i don't get it really. -- nm - Diva Feb 16, 08:41 5
  - my take is, she wants him to *drink* with her, he does not want to. -- nm - loosilu Feb 16, 08:42 4
    - yes, that's been established. -- nm - Diva Feb 16, 08:44 2
      - maybe they are just incompatible. -- nm - loosilu Feb 16, 08:45 1
        
        she's going to get it eventually. she's 24. there ought to come a point for virtually everyone where clubs and beer pong are not every weekend thing -- nm - TFox Feb 16, 08:46
    - agreed -- nm - tRuMaN Feb 16, 08:43
- Bery FTW. -- nm - TFox Feb 16, 08:41

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