|
In response to
"So what was the outcome of the HaxChat? -- nm"
by
psilotum
|
for the kid? here.
Posted by
b. (aka starrynit)
Feb 26 '10, 17:34
|
Carolyn Hax: Why does he have to understand? Or, more specifically, what is there for him to understand at this stage beyond, two people who love each other have created a home together? If he asks, you can point out that the majority of couples are male plus female, but that in every range of normal there are averages cases (like brown hair) and variations (red hair). Sexuality is no different--and you don't even need to use "sexuality," you just need "couples."
Meanwhile, the best way not to "seem" homophobic is not to be homophobic. Keeping your child away from his friend's home because his parents are gay is a homophobic choice: You're treating this couple as an undesirable "other." The best thing you can do for when your son is older is treat this very nice family as you would any other very nice family.
Also, not for nothing, I have a hard time believing your son, at 6, isn't already fully aware that his friend has two mommies/daddies. My kids were on to that well before age 6, and were naturally accepting of it. Kids are open to the world as it's presented to them; it's adults who teach them to start filtering it all in arbitrary ways.
|
Responses:
|
