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In response to "yes. Stop telling her stuff you don't want repeated. -- nm" by loosilu

well, since it's too late...do you have any tips on how to address the situation now...and how to make it stop for the future?

Posted by fedup Feb 28 '10, 21:34

i guess what i'm asking is a confrontation required?

and if so, how to do it in the least damaging way to the work relationship...

i kind of feel like the personal relationship has hit a wall.

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Yes, a confrontation is needed. - loosilu Feb 28, 21:36 16
- and this won't cause strain to the relationship? what if she didn't mean it? (like just loose with her words) - fedup Feb 28, 21:38 15
  - Are you trying to nail her? If so: you lost, move on. If not: stop worrying about the relationship. You're both paid to work together. Just work. -- nm - Fuzzy Feb 28, 21:47 3
    - no...i think it's bad to shit where you work -- nm - fedup Feb 28, 21:51 2
      - Then I'll share my philosophy about work: I'm not paid to like you, I'm paid to work with you. - Fuzzy Feb 28, 21:57 1
        
        see, this is the weird part...everywhere else i've worked, people haven't been so "in your business" - fedup Feb 28, 22:01
  - I have a hard time believing blabbing about bosses is unintentional. - Hotkiss Feb 28, 21:41 7
    - if it's unintentional (which I doubt) then she NEEDS someone to tell her to stop. -- nm - loosilu Feb 28, 21:42
    - you know me, trying to think the best :) -- nm - fedup Feb 28, 21:42 5
      - if it's not intentional, then she's unbelieveably stupid. -- nm - loosilu Feb 28, 21:43 4
        
        thank you loosilu and TFox for your wisdom!! - fedup Feb 28, 21:50 3
        
        did you just indirectly call me unwise -- nm - Hotkiss Feb 28, 21:54 2
        
        *whistles* - fedup Feb 28, 21:55
        
        There's a huge gap between "not as wise as TFox" and "unwise". That's rarefied air we're talking about. -- nm - TFox Feb 28, 21:55
  - Omelets and eggs. - Dr.Vermin Feb 28, 21:41 1
    - thank you as well Dr. Vermin! -- nm - fedup Feb 28, 21:54
  - her blabbing has ruined the relationship. -- nm - loosilu Feb 28, 21:40
does she play the drums? -- nm - TFox Feb 28, 21:35 1
- no...(why does that matter?) -- nm - fedup Feb 28, 21:36

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