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boston.com Love Letters: I Haven't Met HIm Yet

Posted by Diva (aka Diva) Mar 3 '10, 12:44

Hi Meredith,

Here's my dilemma: I met Brian online about two weeks ago. We've had great conversations lasting hours, we exchange emails during the day just to say "hi," and we've exchanged phone numbers and have begun to graduate from online to on-the-phone.

The problem is, we haven't met yet. It's my first time trying online dating, but since I've started, I've been on two dates already. Neither of them has been with Brian. He says that he wants to meet, but that he wants to wait until we're both "totally into it and sure of things," but I don't know how much more sure I can be! We've said we like each other, we've talked about what we'll do on our first date, and we've even talked about more, er, intimate things, if you will.

I just don't know where to go from here. I'm afraid that an ultimatum will turn him away, but I feel like at this point that's my only option.

� Suggestions please?, Boston

Responses:

Geez, truman. Stop leading the girl on. -- nm - Inigo Mar 3, 13:06 1
- Thread winner. -- nm - David Mar 3, 13:08
write him off cause there's one of two possibilities: (1) he's too freaked out for real-world social interaction and she doesn't want him or - 16 & pixie Mar 3, 13:01 2
- my guess is that he doesn't look anything like his picture, or he lied about his age. -- nm - Andie Mar 3, 13:06 1
  - Grok agrees. Grok think guy crazy or liar. (nm) - Grok, musubi's caveman persona Mar 3, 13:09
Cut bait. (nm) - musubi Mar 3, 12:59
He doesn't want to meet her until he can be sure they'll have sex. -- nm - mara Mar 3, 12:52
If he doesn't want to meet up, there's a reason. Assuming it's not geography, it is something else. - Andie Mar 3, 12:51
He's married *and* a serial killer. -- nm - David Mar 3, 12:50 5
- He wants to maintain plausible deniability by proving he refused to meet with her. -- nm - David Mar 3, 12:57 3
  - You have far too much insight into an insane mind. (nm) - musubi Mar 3, 13:02 2
    - I've had 12 years to study you. -- nm - David Mar 3, 13:03 1
      - Sweet jeebus, have we really known each other that long? - musubi Mar 3, 13:11
- That doesn't make sense because if he was a serial killer he'd want to meet her. Maybe he's afraid she's one. -- nm - pmb Mar 3, 12:56
Either he's also dating other people, or he lacks confidence. -- nm - Roger More Mar 3, 12:50
I think I'd suggest she email him this: "Hey dumbass, it's just a cup of coffee. We're not getting married. It's time." -- nm - pmb Mar 3, 12:50
never meet people you tlak to online or in chat rooms, it never works out. NEVER -- nm - CQ Mar 3, 12:47 5
- *adjusts the frequency on my sarcasm detector* -- nm - Diva Mar 3, 12:49 1
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  - *hands you a new set of batteries* -- nm - oblique Mar 3, 12:48 1
    - (beat me to it.) -- nm - TFox Mar 3, 12:48
I think by the Stacy Corollary, they've been dating for two weeks already. She should ask to move in. -- nm - TFox Mar 3, 12:46
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