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In response to "ambition is bad? -- nm" by znufrii

Depends on what you're ambitious for -- nm

Posted by oblique (aka kkuphal) Mar 11 '10, 07:56

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- if you have such an abition you should have a life accordingly - Danedukenuuk Mar 11, 08:03
- There's being ambitious, and making that ambition the #1 priority in your life above all other things - oblique Mar 11, 08:01 27
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    - wrong? if living the life where there is room for work and not much else - Danedukenuuk Mar 11, 08:08
    - I don't recall passing judgement on people for their choices, it's obviously theirs to make. *I* don't make that choice for me and I only put forth - oblique Mar 11, 08:07
  - which, again, is fine. but we can't judge other's career paths by what we ourselves would do. -- nm - Andie Mar 11, 08:02 21
    - true, the only thing you can judge is whether it's working for them or not - znufrii Mar 11, 08:04 3
      - yes. -- nm - loosilu Mar 11, 08:16
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      - right. -- nm - Andie Mar 11, 08:05
    - I forgot that offering opinions here about questions asking for opinions equates to judging - oblique Mar 11, 08:03 16
      - everything here equates to judging - Danedukenuuk Mar 11, 08:21
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        I guess saying "I, peronsally" or "In my life" isn't enough of a clue that I'm speaking of my own opinions -- nm - oblique Mar 11, 08:05 12
        
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        hate to drag this out but... of course you say it's your choices, which everyone respects. but you don't discuss the person in question's choices, - Andie Mar 11, 08:07 10
        
        In this specific case, it's pretty much a given that he's made a wrong choice if it is causing a problem in his marriage (to whatever degree) - oblique Mar 11, 08:10 9
        
        what if, as Andie said, his career requires it? Many of them do. Maybe it's a career he loves. - loosilu Mar 11, 08:15 8
        
        either her or the careeer in this case - Danedukenuuk Mar 11, 08:25
        
        He'd lead with "I need to for my job" instead of "Look at the money." -- nm - Will Hunting Mar 11, 08:20
        
        As I said, *I* personally wouldn't choose to put my career before my wife or my family -- nm - oblique Mar 11, 08:17 5
        
        I get that. I'm saying maybe HE didn't make the wrong choice. -- nm - loosilu Mar 11, 08:18 4
        
        If it is causing a problem in his marriage, then I believe he did -- nm - oblique Mar 11, 08:19 3
        
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        In what? Marrying him? Sorry, it's a two way street. You find the place in the middle where both can live happily -- nm - oblique Mar 11, 08:23 1
        
        Put it another way. My brother is a doctor. - loosilu Mar 11, 08:26
      - no, that's not it at all. your opinion is as valid as anyone elses, but you imply he's wrong to have different values. -- nm - Andie Mar 11, 08:04
  - (and when you get married, you sort of promise to not do the latter.) -- nm - TFox Mar 11, 08:02 1
    - Again with the vows?!? -- nm - JackDawson SI Mar 11, 08:02
- it's not bad in and of itself, but within the context of a healthy relationship, it doesn't seem to be working in their case... -- nm - znufrii Mar 11, 08:01 3
  - Honestly, I think they both need to understand the other better. She needs to understand his career goals, and he needs to make a decision about - Roger More Mar 11, 08:10 2
    - imho, he might also be using the "nice things" argument to mask his insecurities about relationships - znufrii Mar 11, 08:14
    - I agree with this. it sounds like they may have different goals. -- nm - loosilu Mar 11, 08:13

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