Love Letters response to Floating and Confused on the Cape:
Posted by
Diva (aka Diva)
Mar 12 '10, 08:23
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Wow, FAC. You've found yourself one confusing nerd.
He talked about marriage and kids within a few dates? He broke up with you when you couldn't commit to marriage right off the bat? Then he kept sleeping with you? Then, as soon as you told him you'd be open to marriage, he decided he wasn't ready for a big relationship? Yikes.
I don't recommend seeking closure (no such thing). And I don't recommend holding out any longer. I recommend asking him what he thinks he's doing. If he doesn't want to be with you, why is he sleeping with you? And � why does he have to define everything so rigidly? Why does everything have to be a marriage or a break-up? What�s with the mixed signals?
Ask him if he's willing to date you without expectations. Can he just play it by ear? Can he let go of his need to control the outcome of everything from the start?
If he can't, and if he declines to give you any positive answers, my advice is to bail. Sure, you could keep seeing him and cross your fingers that his neurosis and fear of commitment subsides over time, but do you really have the energy for that? And do you have the time? Maybe you do. But you just told us you want to be married by 30. If he's willing to let you walk away, you might want to consider running.
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