Heh. And just think that was just driven by I had to post something as opposed to the martini driven JD
Posted by
JD (aka Jason Dean)
Mar 14 '10, 19:47
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Every day since the anniversary trip and every day since posting that has allowed for a bit more clarity so perhaps a summary can be attempted at this time.
Thanks to all who suffered through all of that and offered kind words and advice.
At that point, I didn't want to summarize as I didn't I could. All of that had just happened to me and there wasn't anything that wasn't important to me
b! gave it a pretty valiant attempt and was pretty correct
I think the summary time line goes as follows
1) Sometime over the last summer/fall, perhaps even further back, I'd become rather complacent and was pretty much taking Veronica for granted.
2) In the fall, Veronica met an agent who had links to the Twilight Saga thing at a premiere and I thought semi-jokingly asked if I was ok with an affair. As a dedicated fan-boy I said yes.
3) After initially being told no, slimy agent kept pursuing Veronica. Asking her day had been, sending her little emails/texts. Perhaps all the things I should be doing
4) At the same time, I disappear into a black hole of work. I really, really quit having anything other than the most basic of interactions with Veronica. er, though it has come in the last few days, the one thing that I've always been fairly consist at is being ok in the sack ;-)
5) So Veronica gives in and says yes. Slimy agent was apparently calling nearly all the time. Various meetings were arranged and from my perspective this is all damning evidence of how much I was being an ignoring bastard as I had no idea
6) Agent is offered and refuses several times. Refusals which just destroy Veronica as she takes it as neither he nor I want her. Which from my side recollection is sadly true.
7) I learn all of the above in a rather mind spinning, glorious anniversary trip to NYC. Tis the worst of times and best of times. One would think after being together for like 20 years and married for 15, I would be safe from having to comfort Veronica from the pain inflicted by bad boyfriends. Good think it was kind of riding a bike and one never forgets.
8) Now, well, now, like right now. It is probably as good as it has ever been for the two of us. This forced us to talk about things that we'd become lazy about. At least from my side to not just know that I love her but to actually tell her that.
It's also unleashed whole Japanese side of me for lack of polite term (it's always the quiet ones).
We've both moved on to anger. Veronica pissed at slimy agent who she's now come around to the general consensus of her friends and he's not a good guy. Me (was it pmb who correctly noted that I wasn't necessarily ok with everything?) in that I'm pissed at myself. As in mad with myself that if I'd been paying any attention, I should have known something.
I think the part that really needed editing was my misguided thoughts about meeting the guy. There are things about him and his approach that I can commend as they are the same things I did / noticed / appreciated about Veronica. However, there are fundamentally different things between us. Like he may just be evil. I think the one that I'm currently hanging on is the revelation that after some of his refusals, the schmuck still had the nerve to state that he wanted her on Valentine's Day and our anniversary? Given that's he's operating under the impression that I haven't given permission or perhaps even so, isn't that just an attempt at like a personal attack? Course the stupid engineer part of me, the part that may have gotten us here in first place, initially thought, how was he going to work that V-Day thing? Wasn't his wife gonna wonder where the hell he went? Our anniversary, OK, I kind of see that as that ought to be just a random day to him and his wife.
umm...yeah..so at this point, perhaps not much of shorter summary.
Any questions, feel free to ask but I appreciate all of you being here and just know that while I needed that post, here's hoping that things are indeed as good as they seem between Veronica and I.
And while it's much too soon to be reflective of a true change, turns out that this year ShoWest and March Madness are the same week. Perhaps ST would be happy to know that I am so planning on throwing the guys under the bus and planning on leaving early at the night games, and arriving late for the morning games so that I can meet up with Veronica on Wed and Thurs nights. Not to mention that kind of looking forward to making a (even if just for show) walk of shame appearance and meeting the guys on either Thursday morning or Friday morning in the same clothes they saw me the night before. ;-)
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