Advice needed for roommate intervention
Posted by
ceregon
Mar 17 '10, 17:22
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First of all, this isn't about Isaiah. He's been renting from me for almost 3 years and is fine. This is about Jay, who is a friend of a friend, and needed to move from Sacramento to the Bay Area because he could not find work as a personal trainer. My friend facilitated a personal training for rent arrangement, although he doesn't have his own room, he's just couch surfing at the moment. When Isaiah moves out after he graduates in June, Jay would move into that room.
The problem is that Jay has no ambition or drive to do anything. The personal training is OK, but he's not integrating himself into the household at all. We get up at 5 or 530 and go to bed between 9 and 10. He stays up until 2 or 3 and sleeps until 10 or 11. I don't like getting woken up when he decides to cook something at 2am, and I'm sure he doesn't like getting woken up when Isaiah and I leave for school in the morning.
When I talked to him about his plans, he was gung ho about starting a physical fitness program where his clients meet him in a park. Since I have a park across the street, he could just store his stuff in my garage and bring them out when his clients come by. He has made no effort to find a second client (other than me). Last weekend was my city's put anything on the curb time, and I had a large but working tv that I wanted to get rid of. I told him he could try to sell it, but it needed to be fast, because if it didn't sell by the time the city came around to pick up stuff, I wanted to put it out for pick up. He hasn't even placed an ad.
His life is sleeping late, hanging out, working on his tan, eating and working out. He can spend all day on his laptop chatting on facebook and other sites. He is a competent trainer and a decent workout buddy. I don't want to enable somebody to just take a vacation from life when I have literally ten students who would love to have that room so they could further their education. He has no interest in any further education, even though he agrees that having business and marketing skills would help him make more money as a personal trainer.
I have strongly hinted about things, but he's not getting the hints (or he's just ignoring them). He's barely an OK roommate, although he may replace a lot of the food he's eaten when he goes shopping this weekend, we'll see. He leaves his bedding on the sofa in the living room all the time. When I have company over, I ask him to take the bedding to the garage where the rest of his stuff is, so I can my living room back. Sometimes he remembers and sometimes I have to put it away.
I feel like I should have a talk with him rather than just kicking him out, but I don't really know what to say. Any advice?
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