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In response to
"She's your mother, the only one. We don't pick our siblings or our parents so you don't have to like them, but they are family and will be family for"
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CrankYanker
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You're not a bad person, and nobody gets to pick their family. You should
Posted by
ceregon
Mar 31 '10, 09:53
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find the best job and living situation for you and not worry about anyone else. My parents are still alive and while I get along with them, I like having them and my other relatives 3000 miles away.
When this sad situation is over, you can get on with your life and avoid your brother entirely. Before your mom passes you should have a long talk with her about how much you appreciate her helping you through the years and tell her about all the things you are grateful for. Do not dwell on the negatives. If she brings up something she's sorry about, tell her it's OK and everyone (even Mom's) make mistakes and that you forgive her. It will make you feel much better that you had this conversation after she's gone and it will provide a lot of comfort to her.
I like your idea of treating them as two different people, and focus on your mom before she was diagnosed and less on what she's doing now.
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