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In response to
"she's just angry she's dying and her brain is diseased. that doesn't change how hard it is, but, you can't change any of that. :( -- nm"
by
Hockey Chick
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It really is very hard to explain. It's not quite coming across here the way that it should.
Posted by
kelly (aka kelly)
Mar 31 '10, 10:14
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The last 2 years since her diagnosis have been spent filled with nonstop guilt trips and reminders that she's a dying woman. She was not used to being told "no" when she was well, so hearing it now that she's sick is not a happy story.
Last year we were invited to a friend's Memorial Day cookout, so we told her we wouldn't be at hers, since we had already been invited and accepted the invitation to my friend's party. "He'll regret not coming to my party next year when I'm dead and gone." Everything is just a constant guilt trip or reminder that she's dying. It's NONSTOP.
It's gotten to the point on MY end where I do not want to introduce her to my own mother (who is visiting MD for the first time next week - YAY!) because the last thing I want my mother to have to hear in her short time here (like, 36 hrs short) is the 1000th retelling of Will's mother's illness. It's all she talks about. I have not invited his mother to be a part of any of my wedding planning (trying on dresses, etc.) because the wedding happiness will be turned into a story about how she's a dying woman. It's just a lot to deal with every freakin' 15 minutes (and that's not much of an exaggeration, we get reminders every chance she gets). I can't even imagine what she's dealing with - but now it's to the point where nobody can listen to it any more.
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