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you guys! feel free to beat me up. i am totally struggling with my guy's bachelor party

Posted by kare (aka kare) Apr 26 '10, 13:23

i am trying SO hard to be cool about it. when i was asked for "rules" i was like, the only rule is that he doesn't cheat on me. otherwise make sure he has a fabulous time.

but i know he's going to have a stripper. but then fine, i want a damn stripper too, dammit. but now i don't think there will be one at mine. not that my reasoning was terribly mature, but still. now i'm all bent out of shape about the whole thing.

i am so going to regret posting this.

Responses:

In all likelihood, he'll be entirely too drunk to do anything bad. -- nm - Reagen Apr 26, 13:43 1
- *picture of him grabbing crotch and firing police shotgun in the air* -- nm - Max Apr 26, 13:44
from the BPs I've been too (and maybe I've been to the wrong ones) they are never as fun as they would seem - zeitgeist Apr 26, 13:40
Alternate (and serious) suggestion: ask him to axe the stripper but promise to go with him to a strip club at a later date. - David Apr 26, 13:33 7
- I like this answer - cause you seemed worried on a lot of different fronts - Epiphany Apr 26, 13:39
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  - some are. this one is two weeks prior -- nm - kare Apr 26, 13:42
  - Noone in their right mind does that. - musubi Apr 26, 13:40
- I think axing a stripper was the plot of Very Bad Things. nm - Dignan Apr 26, 13:36 1
  - I can trace my complete hatred for Pivens to that movie. -- nm - Mel Profit Apr 26, 13:38
- David FTW. -- nm - TFox Apr 26, 13:35
honestly I would be more worried if he was going to a bar or club. - decline Apr 26, 13:32 2
- and just what exactly were you doin at the other bachelor parties -- nm - budice Apr 26, 13:34
- agreed on all counts. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 26, 13:33
I think you should vent all your thoughts and frustrations with the bachelor party NOW. - Dr.Vermin Apr 26, 13:32 5
- yowza. well i guess i did just say to feel free to beat up on me. - kare Apr 26, 13:34 4
  - That probably sounded meaner than I meant it to. Sorry. - Dr.Vermin Apr 26, 13:38 1
    - i point out nice racks to him all the time! i'm not always uncool! - kare Apr 26, 13:44
  - Haven't you been married before? How did you treat it the first time and how did that go? -- nm - David Apr 26, 13:35 1
    - he didn't want a stripper. otherwise... i don't even remember what our first dance was to - kare Apr 26, 13:37
women always make these things out to be WAY worse than they are. - groiny Apr 26, 13:31 12
- i've known both men and women who have slept with their strippers or other chicks/dudes at their bachelor/bachelorette party -- nm - kare Apr 26, 13:35 6
  - if they jam the stripper, then they didn't need a stripper to go extramarital jamming on anyway. - TFox Apr 26, 13:41 3
    - yes, totally, totally right. this exactly is what i need to remember, and then i will chill. -- nm - kare Apr 26, 13:46
    - Yup (nm) - musubi Apr 26, 13:44
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  - Yeah; that's called a saving grace for the other party. -- nm - Will Hunting Apr 26, 13:40
  - you need a better class of friends. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 26, 13:40
- agreed...it's more for the friends than for the groom. -- nm - Mel Profit Apr 26, 13:35
- i dunno if i agree. i mean, no one is going to jam the stripper. and no one is going to take the stripper aside to make out on a couch. - TFox Apr 26, 13:34 3
  - you mean strippers have *never ever* done guys at bachelor parties? riiiight. -- nm - zork Apr 26, 13:36 1
    - "never"? well, of course not. but the best man probably didn't hire a "stripper" for that either. -- nm - TFox Apr 26, 13:38
  - there is ZERO concern about the strippers... - groiny Apr 26, 13:35
Here's how I see it. (I'm probably unusual.) The being upset, the feeling hurt, the seeing it as a problem, *leads* to being lied to. -- nm - mara Apr 26, 13:30
bigger buzzkill than Buzz Killington -- nm - budice Apr 26, 13:30
Just let him know that if he hurts you, we will find him. :-) -- nm - TWuG Apr 26, 13:28
personally, I don't see what the need for a stripper is at bachelor parties -- nm - zork Apr 26, 13:28 12
- nor I. Shutup, JackDawson... - znufrii Apr 26, 13:34 2
  - we've already booked - ty97 Apr 26, 13:36 1
    - *cancels the wedding* -- nm - znufrii Apr 26, 13:37
- I don't see the problem one way or the other. (nm) - musubi Apr 26, 13:30 5
  - i agree, but strippers are often presumed to be cool. and i don't think that should be the default. -- nm - TFox Apr 26, 13:31 4
    - a lot of people (read brides) expect that the stripper(s) have sex with the guys at parties. Right or wrong, if she thinks that way then don't have on -- nm - zork Apr 26, 13:33 3
      - This would never cross my mind, because... stripper. -- nm - Reagen Apr 26, 13:36 1
        
        me too, but hell, there are people who use prostitutes *shrug* -- nm - zork Apr 26, 13:38
      - They do? I have never had that expectation. Did I miss out? - musubi Apr 26, 13:35
- trust me, i really wish he'd just been all, "guys, i just want a day of golfing" -- nm - kare Apr 26, 13:29 2
  - Buddy of mine did this. Told his best man, "No strippers. Sue [the bride] doesn't approve." - musubi Apr 26, 13:33
  - we could do that anytime. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 26, 13:30
strippers is no big deal. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 26, 13:28
no obsessing! - b. Apr 26, 13:26 1
- but i totally want to be cool about it, see. just because a stripper is going to be infinitely hotter than me, so what. right?! - kare Apr 26, 13:32
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Link him to this post and trust him to appreciate what you're trying to do for him and he should try to do for you. -- nm - David Apr 26, 13:26 2
- oh, we have talked about it. i'm being a little high maintenance about it. -- nm - kare Apr 26, 13:28 1
  - Then he knows and if you trust him enough to marry him, you have to trust him enough not to hurt you in this particular situation. -- nm - David Apr 26, 13:30
Have you defined what cheating is? -- nm - amoxy Apr 26, 13:25 17
- no. - kare Apr 26, 13:28 14
  - for me, ... - zork Apr 26, 13:32
  - what if he frisks the stripper? you know, for weapons. safety first. -- nm - Max Apr 26, 13:29
  - He needs to know your definition. -- nm - mara Apr 26, 13:28 11
    - agreed. have this talk pre-stripper. otherwise, badness may happen. -- nm - TFox Apr 26, 13:29
    - agreed. And define up front if lapdance/contact is disallowed. -- nm - ty97 Apr 26, 13:29 7
      - ugh. these kinds of rules just feel so gross to me. i want him to have a great time and not be worried about my stupid little rules. you know? -- nm - kare Apr 26, 13:35 3
        
        Bottom line, it's like your marriage, at the end of the day, you set out expectations for either other and the rest is up to trust. - musubi Apr 26, 13:38
        
        I'm not trying to poke with sharp sticks here, just be honest and helpful. As such, I think the ship has already sailed on that based on what you said -- nm - David Apr 26, 13:37 1
        
        i know, and i do appreciate that. mostly i'm just pissed at myself for being bothered by the whole thing. - kare Apr 26, 13:41
      - Strippers with no lapdances? Might as well go golfing without clubs. (nm) - musubi Apr 26, 13:33 2
        
        lapdances with no penetration? might as well go golfing without holes. -- nm - Max Apr 26, 13:35 1
        
        *laughing* -- nm - TFox Apr 26, 13:35
    - Yeah, no making out is something that may not translate for everyone. -- nm - David Apr 26, 13:29 1
      - Hell, no blowjob might not translare for everyone. -- nm - mara Apr 26, 13:37
- it's not cheating if the stripper forces her nipple on his lips. -- nm - Max Apr 26, 13:26
- I wasn't going to bring that up, but I'm kind of glad you did. -- nm - mara Apr 26, 13:26

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