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In response to
"please to be copy and pasting? -- nm"
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kare
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Posted by
mr. irrelevant (aka chris)
Apr 30 '10, 13:23
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Turnoff #1: Flakiness
Guys report that one of the biggest turnoffs when dating a woman is when she either can�t commit to plans or constantly flakes on plans. If you regularly pencil in your plans with a �maybe� and/or cancel plans at the last minute, you�re giving your guy the impression that he�s tentative in your life, aka �good enough for now.� Who wants to date someone who makes them feel temporary? Chances are you don�t, and you shouldn�t be the girl who makes her date feel that way either.
Turnoff #2: Poor communication skills
Raise your hand if you�ve been this girl in your relationship past: your date/boyfriend said or did something you didn�t like, but instead of saying anything, you went along with it. You may have even said it was �fine.� But then at some point down the road, you got upset. Maybe you even blew up at an inappropriate time, causing an argument that completely took your significant other off guard. Most of us have been guilty of passive aggressive behavior at least once in our dating past. It happens. But when you repeat that kind of behavior over and over in any dating/relationship scenario, the only thing you�ll succeed at is sabotaging your efforts. Just as you deserve to be with someone who�s comfortable communicating his wants, needs, and desires, you, too, should be a healthy communicator. Don�t say one thing if you really mean another. Instead, get in the habit of saying what you mean. Guys appreciate that!
Turnoff #3: Not playing fair
From your initial encounter to your first date and beyond, guys pay attention to whether or not you�re playing fair. If, for example, you always expect the guy to come to your side of town, pick you up, open your door, pay the check, drop you off, call you the next day, and in general placate your every need without you so much as lifting a finger, you�re not dating fairly. More important, if there�s a disagreement and you don�t fight fairly, i.e., you throw things in his face, hold grudges, and insist on winning every argument, you�re going to be a very lonely single girl because you�re not being fair. In the new millennium, chivalry goes both ways and the dating game requires plenty of give-and-take. If you can be fair in dating times both good and bad, guys will dig you so much more!
Turnoff #4: Trying to change him
It�s almost clich� how often in the media we see, hear, or read about a woman who tries to change her man. Whether it�s changing how he dresses, what he watches on TV, his manners, or his friends, the woman at the helm of all this change always comes off as a control freak. Don�t be that girl. Just as the guy in your life should accept you warts and all, you, too, should accept him for who he is. And if you can�t? Don�t date him. It�s as simple as that. The whole point of being single and dating is to meet a variety of different people, find out who you are as well as who your perfect partner might be, and eventually settle down with someone who�s right for you. Rather than trying to change the wrong guy into Mr. Right, why not keep playing the field until you meet that special someone who�s far from perfect but whose imperfections you have no desire to change? (He�s out there � keep looking!)
Turnoff #5: Ultimatums
Nothing turns a man off more than a woman who gives him an ultimatum. Not only are they not sexy, they�re ineffective. Healthy and happy relationships don�t need ultimatums. When you�re regularly communicating your needs to the person you�re in a relationship with, ultimatums are unnecessary. It�s when communication breaks down, when one person feels his or her needs aren�t being met, or when the relationship isn�t going in the direction one had hoped or at the speed one had anticipated, that ultimatums are usually issued. A huge turn-off, ultimatums are a tricky relationship tactic and should be avoided at all costs.
So there you have it � the top five male turnoffs. By understanding the dating and mating behaviors that shut men down, you ultimately master the art of how to turn the right guy on. Good luck and happy dating!
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