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I missed drama? OK kare. First it was not your responsibility to rein in the guy at your own shower. It was his wife's if anyone. Second,

Posted by loosilu (aka loosilu2) May 10 '10, 09:51

I hope the wife talking to him will be effective. I think she has to lay it on the line to him: Either he promises to behave (sounds like in his case this means no drinking) or he can't go to the wedding.

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thx. i kinda consider him a friend too, which is why i was thinking i should have paid more attention and said something. - kare May 10, 09:57 21
- FWIW, I don't think you'd be out of line AT ALL to say something to the guy. - Jim May 10, 10:04
- The party was in your honor. She was the hostess and his wife. it was her problem. -- nm - loosilu May 10, 09:59 13
  - I agree with this, but I'd also append the statement that it's *his* problem. (nm) - musubi May 10, 10:06 10
    - yeah, i'm a little on the fence about her being responsible because she's his wife, too. i get what people mean by it, but it's a little dicey - kare May 10, 10:09 4
      - Yeah. I mean, the wife is your friend and was host, so it's only natural that you contact her first, - musubi May 10, 10:15
      - Definitely not your responsibility. -- nm - Jim May 10, 10:10
      - (then again, i emailed *her* about it, not him... ;) -- nm - kare May 10, 10:09 1
        
        *finger to nose* -- nm - loosilu May 10, 10:10
    - his problem creates a problem for kare, which is not ok. -- nm - loosilu May 10, 10:07 4
      - let me just also say, that i'm pissed he did this. really pissed. he didn't have enough - kare May 10, 10:11 2
        
        You have every right to be pissed. If his wife talking to him doesn't work out, I think you should uninvite him yourself. -- nm - loosilu May 10, 10:12 1
        
        ok, maybe something less dramatic ... inform him that the minute he acts up, he's going home. -- nm - loosilu May 10, 10:12
      - Yes it does. (nm) - musubi May 10, 10:09
  - ...and if he had other friends there, they should have done something. -- nm - loosilu May 10, 09:59
  - yup. -- nm - znufrii May 10, 09:59
- it really is not your problem though. nm -- nm - groiny May 10, 09:58 5
  - hmm. well maybe i'm trying to take too much responsiblity. i think the fact that you naturally feel some responsibility for how people get along - kare May 10, 10:03 4
    - yes, but that's the hostess' issue. -- nm - loosilu May 10, 10:03 3
      - Maybe for that particular instance...but I think kare's focus has already shifted to the coming events and the fear that it could repeat. -- nm - Jim May 10, 10:05 2
        
        oh, absoliutely. She has every right to worry about him at her wedding. - loosilu May 10, 10:05 1
        
        ;) - kare May 10, 10:12

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