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poll! the silent treatment: good, bad, childish, what?

Posted by kare (aka kare) Dec 1 '08, 10:29

i think it depends on the motivation, but it's usually crappy and childish.

though sometimes it's good for thought-gathering.

Responses:

... -- nm - David Dec 1, 10:46
I like it. - Pippy Dec 1, 10:42
Capital C childish. -- nm - Name Withheld By Request Dec 1, 10:42
unuseful -- nm - znufrii Dec 1, 10:38
From experience, childish and just about the quickest way to kill a relationship. -- nm - TWuG Dec 1, 10:37
Its not just withholding communication, its withholding love -- nm - zeitgeist Dec 1, 10:34
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Has it's uses. - Will Hunting Dec 1, 10:32
*turns back to you, crosses arms, frowns* -- nm - Reagen Dec 1, 10:32
as a punishment i think it's sort of stupid, but i agree that if the argument is going nowhere, than saying nothing for a while might help both sides. -- nm - El Fandie Dec 1, 10:32 3
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  - *gives jack the silent treatment* -- nm - TWuG Dec 1, 10:40
- agreed -- nm - CrankYanker Dec 1, 10:33
Childish -- nm - TFox Dec 1, 10:31
Childish and stupid. -- nm - lileve Dec 1, 10:31 1
- Anytime my mother has given me the silent treatment in the past few years I ask her "Are you five." - lileve Dec 1, 10:37
Usually crappy and childish, but sometimes I have just felt unable to talk. So it wasn't that I was choosing not to talk out of petulance. -- nm - mara Dec 1, 10:31 10
- to me that is not the same as the "silent treatment". -- nm - loosilu in Algiers Dec 1, 10:36
- Personally, I think there's a difference between feeling unable to talk, and going out of your way to avoid talking to someone. -- nm - kelly Dec 1, 10:33 8
  - But I think they would seem the same, or very close, to the person observing it. -- nm - mara Dec 1, 10:34 6
    - If I am unable to talk, I say, "I'm so sorry but I'm unable to talk." I don't pretend the person doesn't exist. -- nm - loosilu in Algiers Dec 1, 10:36 5
      - I had a friend in elementary/high school who used to *love* using the silent treatment, for reasons that I am still not sure of. - kelly Dec 1, 10:42
      - though... that can be more loaded than not saying anything at all. -- nm - kare Dec 1, 10:42 3
        
        Not if it's true. Then it's just the truth, not a tactic. -- nm - TFox Dec 1, 10:44 2
        
        of course it can be loaded if it's true. it directly implies there's a problem, and possibly makes the other party wonder even *more* what's wrong. - kare Dec 1, 10:47 1
        
        with the silent treatment, sometimes you wonder whether you're imagining the whole thing. Totally Gaslight. -- nm - loosilu in Algiers Dec 1, 10:51
  - Yes. Once you say the sentence "I really need some time to myself", it's not the silent treatment, it's something else. -- nm - TFox Dec 1, 10:34
Mostly good, because if you are angry at someone, silence is better than saying something you'll soon regret -- nm - con_carne Dec 1, 10:30 4
- The silent treatment is not just withholding communication for an hour or so until you calm down, it's a persistent unwillingness to acknowledge - TWuG Dec 1, 10:40 3
  - yeah, i guess it can get to that level pretty quickly, eh. -- nm - kare Dec 1, 10:44
  - This is what the colonel used to do, and it's impossible to have any kind of adult communication. -- nm - loosilu in Algiers Dec 1, 10:41 1
    - It's what I did in my marriage around 5 or 6 years ago that almost cost me my wife. - TWuG Dec 1, 10:45
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- nah, more general--any kind of relationship. work, family, etc. -- nm - kare Dec 1, 10:34 1
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childish and destructive, IMO. -- nm - loosilu in Algiers Dec 1, 10:30

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