LYC: Bit of a sad wedding tale....
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Two of our bridesmaids were high school friends of my girl's, though over the years the friendship had faded in and out somewhat in terms of how close they were. She was slightly hesitent to ask them to stand up, but in the end we needed a larger wedding party and she kinda hoped that standing up would give them an opportunity to reconnect somewhat.
Hasn't worked well. Partially because of the nature of the wedding - small town arrangements three hours away - and partially because we didn't want to burden our wedding party, we've been handling most, if not all, of out wedding arrangements and I guess the girls felt left out of the loop and a bit miffed. There hasn't been good vibes and managing them has created more stress than it should. My fiance is now thinking that this has become more of a "swan song" of the friendship and that really hit her last night when she realized that her high school friendships probably has a little bit less than three months remaining.
I feel bad for her, but I also think that the girls have been a little unfair. We made the error of not being more inclusive when we could, mistakenly thinking that our friends would appreciate not being burdened, but the girls are also making it difficult as well and putting stress on the bride, which is completely NOT what you're supposed to do in this situation.
*sigh*
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