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In response to "serious question - you yourself have said you aren't in any head space to get involved with someone, but i assume you expect to get past that. why " by Andie

then he shouldn't be dating her, and certainly not demanding exclusivity (which he apparently did). It's not fair to her. -- nm

Posted by loosilu (aka loosilu2) Jul 28 '10, 10:55

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it's pretty controlling. which isn't unexpected from someone recently out of a bad relationship/breakup, but has to be dealt with asap. - b. Jul 28, 10:59 31
- he's just broken. but she loves him. so tell him that, and he's either too broken to deal, or not. - TFox Jul 28, 11:01 30
  - She already has her answer. If he were ready she wouldn't have to ask. -- nm - loosilu Jul 28, 11:12 13
    - horse and bullpoop, mixed in a single bag. but she can tell him. -- nm - TFox Jul 28, 11:13 12
      - oh, come *on*. -- nm - loosilu Jul 28, 11:15 11
        
        i'm dead serious. its asinine to not tell someone you love them if you really love them, because they were actin' the fool. - TFox Jul 28, 11:17 10
        
        Agreed. It's the not telling some how you feel that people regret. - Inigo Jul 28, 11:22 6
        
        I have done it and regretted it. -- nm - loosilu Jul 28, 11:28 5
        
        that sucks. - b. Jul 28, 11:32
        
        I have told this before I have said I Love you to 4 people - amoxy Jul 28, 11:31 3
        
        without including the L word, I have regretted telling the other person about my feelings almost every time. -- nm - loosilu Jul 28, 11:32 2
        
        Sorry Loosi, I am not going to play - amoxy Jul 28, 11:34 1
        
        fair nuff. -- nm - loosilu Jul 28, 11:35
        
        in any case, it ups the odds you'll then learn what's really what. - b. Jul 28, 11:20 2
        
        girls think too much. -- nm - TFox Jul 28, 11:22 1
        
        duh. -- nm - b. Jul 28, 11:24
  - It's amazing how 99% of this stuff is answerable by "You need to have a conversation with him/her/znu." - Diva Jul 28, 11:07 13
    - And the other 1%? - amoxy Jul 28, 11:31
    - hee! -- nm - znufrii Jul 28, 11:12
    - this was my real answer to her question. How about have an effin conversation with the man to let him know how you feel? but - CQ Jul 28, 11:09 10
      - We all need our go-tos. - Diva Jul 28, 11:14 1
        
        agreed but he already partially blocked her - Epiphany Jul 28, 11:28
      - if you have to ask, the answer is already no. -- nm - loosilu Jul 28, 11:13 5
        
        People don't get to the all the stages at exactly the same time. Someone might be happy and committed but just not ready to go to the next level - Andie Jul 28, 11:17 1
        
        then, it's no, as I understand it. not "maybe later". -- nm - loosilu Jul 28, 11:26
        
        that's not always the case. not everyone communicates the same way. - b. Jul 28, 11:16 1
        
        the problem is not his words, it's his actions. Actions are what count. -- nm - loosilu Jul 28, 11:27
        
        not necessarily -- nm - chuckles Jul 28, 11:14
      - every time I think about asking a personal situation question here, I think about your responding that way. -- nm - b. Jul 28, 11:10 1
        
        heh, I save that for the boston and hax chat questions. They're such stupid questions (most of the time) you wonder if - CQ Jul 28, 11:12
  - I'm not sure how much you can really love someone who only gives part of himself. - b. Jul 28, 11:06 1
    - b is smart -- nm - Epiphany Jul 28, 11:32
plus, I am wondering if b isn't right that he sounds like he has someone else. It kinda sounds like he does. -- nm - loosilu Jul 28, 10:57

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