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In response to "The thing that's staying with me is that he said he was "humiliated"." by nubby

i really really feel for the guy, but i don't know why people whose marriages are so precarious have 4 kids.

Posted by Andie (aka Andie) Aug 11 '10, 19:57

i mean, even if one partner doesn't know that the other is a mess, at least one of them does.

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uh, ask Inigo. -- nm - loosilu Aug 11, 20:01 22
- *sigh* -- nm - Spawn Aug 11, 20:05
- ('s wife) -- nm - nubby Aug 11, 20:05
- Dude -- nm - Stephen (Status Seeker) Aug 11, 20:04 19
  - this -- nm - TFox Aug 11, 20:04 18
    - it's legit. -- nm - loosilu Aug 11, 20:05 17
      - that's not so clear. -- nm - b! Aug 11, 21:17
      - FWIW, I try to stay neutral on these things, but I was fairly horrified by that comment. - David Aug 11, 20:23
      - You couldn't have expressed your thoughts on the subject without throwing him under the bus? -- nm - Stephen (Status Seeker) Aug 11, 20:11 9
        
        wow. Well, I didn't intend to throw him under a bus. Andie's question made me think of I immediately. -- nm - loosilu Aug 11, 20:13 8
        
        I'm not saying you said it maliciously, but you have to know that throwing out someones personal and painful experience as an example is going to come - Stephen (Status Seeker) Aug 11, 20:16 2
        
        since you are not Spawn and are civilized ... yes, I see it now, and I am sorry. I did not mean it to come across badly. -- nm - loosilu Aug 11, 20:22 1
        
        *golf clap* - Spawn Aug 11, 20:24
        
        Maybe you should think about the way things will sound before you hit the "enter" key. -- nm - Spawn Aug 11, 20:13 4
        
        dude, of all people to say this. -- nm - loosilu Aug 11, 20:14 3
        
        Hey, I only hurt those I attack. I would *never* bring someone unrelated into it. - Spawn Aug 11, 20:17 2
        
        oh, that makes it ok. -- nm - loosilu Aug 11, 20:20 1
        
        (Nice walk away) No but when I go after someone, they have asked for it. -- nm - Spawn Aug 11, 20:21
      - i'm not sure your definition of legit, but it a) wasn't her point, and b) was kinda douchey to say. -- nm - TFox Aug 11, 20:07 4
        
        my point, really, was sometimes people just don't know. -- nm - loosilu Aug 11, 20:13 3
        
        So, you are saying that a women that screws nine guys behind her husband's back just doesn't know and chose to bring up a sensitive subject to "prove" - Spawn Aug 11, 20:15 2
        
        walking away. -- nm - loosilu Aug 11, 20:16 1
        
        Yeah, you did your damage, now walk away. How about apologizing for your mistake? - Spawn Aug 11, 20:18
It's kinda horrible, but one of my initial thoughts was: paternity tests. -- nm - nubby Aug 11, 19:58 16
- don't blame you -- nm - Andie Aug 11, 20:00
- I'm sure that was one of his first thoughts too... - Stephen (Status Seeker) Aug 11, 19:59 14
  - but, if you love and have raised a child, would you even want to think it's not yours? because emotionally it is. -- nm - Andie Aug 11, 20:00 13
    - This. If I was in his position, even if I had a suspicion, I wouldn't want to know. They're *my* kids now. -- nm - Mop Aug 11, 20:22 1
      - I would consider them my kids, but for medical reasons, i would want to know -- nm - amoxy Aug 11, 20:28
    - Would you want to, no. But, I'm not sure how that doesn't cross your mind. - Stephen (Status Seeker) Aug 11, 20:03 3
      - nine men. X times. -- nm - ty97 Aug 11, 20:05
      - And I'd think the not knowing would drive me (personally) way beyond crazy. -- nm - nubby Aug 11, 20:04 1
        
        Absolutely. -- nm - Stephen (Status Seeker) Aug 11, 20:06
    - i'd probably want to know eventually, for a myriad of reasons, but not right away. -- nm - TFox Aug 11, 20:02 6
      - part of me would probably always want to know, because I hate uncertainty. But I think I'd never have the test. - ty97 Aug 11, 20:05 5
        
        i'm thinking of, like, medical reasons i'd want it done, potentially. -- nm - TFox Aug 11, 20:06 4
        
        that would be taken care of by STD tests. -- nm - loosilu Aug 11, 20:14 2
        
        huh? I think he means medical history for the kids....if they have a different dad, they have different medical history and risks - ty97 Aug 11, 20:15 1
        
        right -- nm - TFox Aug 11, 20:20
        
        mmm, this is a very good point -- nm - ty97 Aug 11, 20:07

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i really really feel for the guy, but i don't know why people whose marriages are so precarious have *4* kids.

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