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In response to "LIR: ugh, this is the family drama stuff that drives me f-in crazy...(with addendum)" by Stephen (Status Seeker)

short answer: yes.

Posted by b. (aka starrynit) Aug 13 '10, 12:58

her sister's son gets to see the baby before your sister's kids do because he'll be with connor, not because she's choosing the nephew alone. there's no game there; so there's no winning or losing, ya know?

everyone's different about birthing things. not wanting extra visitors right away is her choice to make, and there'll be plenty of time for everyone to see the baby. :) -

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in my situation, that would be directly attributed to malicious intent - oblique Aug 13, 13:08 4
- that sucks, but it doesn't sound like it's applicable to stephen. if there's been other shut-out-y behavior, things may be different. -- nm - b. Aug 13, 13:09 3
  - His sister could feel that way (intentionally left out) - oblique Aug 13, 13:11 2
    - to me, it sounded like stephen is the one who's feeling slighted. I hope his sister, who has given birth herself, would understand. if not, sorry! -- - b. Aug 13, 13:16 1
      - Oh, I'm feeling it, on her behalf as well, and when/if she finds out I'm sure she will too -- nm - Stephen (Status Seeker) Aug 13, 13:21
Sure, but when she sets it up that way...and in such a way that her family is included and mine isn't... -- nm - Stephen (Status Seeker) Aug 13, 12:59 41
- imo, if she spent all this time carrying and delivering the baby, she gets... what's reasonable? like 6 hours? - TFox Aug 13, 13:05 17
  - Agreed. - musubi Aug 13, 13:10
  - Amy said no visits the *day* of. That was for the three of us. - Spawn Aug 13, 13:09 6
    - See, that's what I wanted, but even with Connor it was her moms, and her grandma that were there right afterwards... - Stephen (Status Seeker) Aug 13, 13:21
    - Then reitirate that and say the sister can bring Conor, but then she has to leave, and can see the baby the next day. -- nm - the liioulu with heat advisory Aug 13, 13:16 1
      - Sorry, misread the pposter. -- nm - the liioulu with heat advisory Aug 13, 13:20
    - See, that's what I wanted, but even with Connor it was her moms, and her grandma that were there right afterwards... - Stephen (Status Seeker) Aug 13, 13:16
    - personally, that's what i would prefer. i didn't want to deal with anyone else that day. -- nm - TFox Aug 13, 13:11 1
      - It really made sense and made it far more enjoyable. - Spawn Aug 13, 13:15
  - logic would dictate nine months. -- nm - loosilu Aug 13, 13:06 8
    - eff that. she already cashed in a lot of it getting pancakes and backrubs and shit. - TFox Aug 13, 13:08 7
      - right, because 2 hours a week of pancakes and backrubs is equivalent. -- nm - loosilu Aug 13, 13:09 6
        
        he's totally joking. -- nm - b. Aug 13, 13:11 5
        
        loosi is too - Roger More Aug 13, 13:12 3
        
        zing! (nm) - musubi Aug 13, 13:14
        
        you are so dead. -- nm - loosilu Aug 13, 13:13
        
        heh. -- nm - TFox Aug 13, 13:12
        
        I know. - loosilu Aug 13, 13:12
- she also gets to decide who sees her after she's gone through surgery. - b. Aug 13, 13:04 7
  - p.s. if it is just about seeing the baby, like in the nursery instead of her room, I'd wager ashlee wouldn't have an issue with it. -- nm - b. Aug 13, 13:08 4
    - I don't think most hospitals have nurseries anymore. (nm) - musubi Aug 13, 13:19 2
      - although some hospitals still have them, I should have said "a nursery" instead. -- nm - b. Aug 13, 13:21
      - STOP IGNORING ME!!! -- nm - Spawn Aug 13, 13:21
    - That was why I asked. A lot of hospitals don;t do the nursery thing, unless theer are complications. -- nm - Spawn Aug 13, 13:08
  - this too. I'd pick my sister or best friend before anyone else. -- nm - loosilu Aug 13, 13:07 1
    - *feels shunned* -- nm - dogbert Aug 13, 13:14
- You've got two choices - suck it up, or invite your sister to come too. -- nm - the liioulu with heat advisory Aug 13, 13:01
- 20 years down the road, no one's going to give a crap about who saw who first. -- nm - Reagen Aug 13, 13:00 13
  - hurt feelings are hurt feelings. - Stephen (Status Seeker) Aug 13, 13:09 7
    - Is your sister making an issue of it? "Is someone seeing the new baby before me?" - JaxSean Aug 13, 13:16 1
      - She isn't, because she doesn't know yet. - Stephen (Status Seeker) Aug 13, 13:25
    - And people can let hurt feelings go. - musubi Aug 13, 13:13
    - all I'm saying is, you can make this an issue, or you can take the long view that it's not going to matter in the end. -- nm - Reagen Aug 13, 13:11
    - I would really play up the "hurting from the surgery and does not want to entertain" aspect, then. -- nm - Spawn Aug 13, 13:10
    - if its part of a pattern, that's different, but people shouldn't feel excluded if they don't get to immediately see other people's babies. * - TFox Aug 13, 13:10 1
      - it's the "before the other person" part where it gets weird. -- nm - loosilu Aug 13, 13:11
  - This. (nm) - musubi Aug 13, 13:08
  - I disagree. My mother and I saw my my niece before any other (non mom & dad) family members 14 years ago. - Spawn Aug 13, 13:07
  - this. I never understood the whole thing about this. -- nm - loosilu Aug 13, 13:01
  - what else are they going to have to fight about in the hovercar? -- nm - crash davis Aug 13, 13:01 1
    - whose turn it is to get probed by the Antaerians. -- nm - Reagen Aug 13, 13:02

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