rant/question: "I cook, you clean" is standard social etiquette, right?
Posted by
Hotkiss (aka hotkiss7348)
Oct 11 '10, 07:25
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One of my roommates is Canadian so Saturday night, she made us all a fantastic Canadian Thanksgiving Meal. Given the lack of ingredients and meager kitchen that we have, I was incredibly impressed and it was no easy task on her part. Plus she spent all afternoon preparing the 7-person (roommates + friends) meal and wouldn�t accept our contribution to the costs.
After the meal, we split the dishes into thirds; I washed my third, Dutch boy cleaned his third, but the Estonian girl left her part. A day lafter, she still had not done her part so we politely asked her to follow suit.
She responded, �WHAT?! If you invite someone to a dinner, you make the food AND clean, it�s impolite to ask your guests to clean after you!� And with a huge huff and no small tantrum, she went to clean the last of the dishes.
She�s already on thin ice with the Canadian roommate; we practically had to beg the Estonian to join in Thanksgiving Dinner (no costs or effort on her part except the understood cleaning!) so as not to create an even bigger riff in the house. But seriously, on top of everything else these past few weeks with her, she is the biggest bitch I�ve ever met. Everything she says is actually a double meaning with an insult, and she prides herself on being �real� and �honest� to the point of obnoxious douchebaggery.
I always operated under "I cook, you clean" with friends and roommates. Another matter if it's my parents or a respectable elder, or honorable friend guest of course.
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Responses:
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there are cultural differences, but in my world, if you invite friends to dinner, you don't ask them to clean. if i cook for someone i live with,
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Andie
Oct 11, 07:46
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there is no "standard social ettiquette" for thoose commie roomsharing communes
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Danedukenuuk
Oct 11, 07:35
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I don't consider that standard unless before the meal you say "You cook, I clean?"
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Jim
Oct 11, 07:35
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is she an orphan? -- nm
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stanley
Oct 11, 07:32
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It may be "standard" for you and your other roommates. Perhaps it is not standard in Estonia. -- nm
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TWuG
Oct 11, 07:31
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Your mistake was begging her to participate. Her mistake was considering herself a guest -- as an resident, she was actually a host. -- nm
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mara
Oct 11, 07:28
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Roommates yes, invitees, no
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amoxy
Oct 11, 07:28
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