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and "ended badly" addresses yesterday's point. why be fake? like, I like danzig, but I am not a blaring music outside girl.

Posted by chromanda (aka amanda) Oct 14 '10, 11:29

so I attracted a guy who wanted that girl and I got burned.

why. be. fake?

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Every time Trish tells me to go to a baseball game to find a guy, this is my answer. -- nm - loosilu Oct 14, 11:41 18
- You don't have to be a baseball fan to go to a baseball game. -- nm - Beryllium Oct 14, 11:43 17
  - True. For instance, I'm a sex-in-the-stands fan. -- nm - Max Oct 14, 11:44 1
    - So you're one of those bastards who loves the Wave. -- nm - Will Hunting Oct 14, 11:57
  - that's not the point at all. -- nm - loosilu Oct 14, 11:44 14
    - *shrug* It just seems to me that people equate compatibility with similarity. And I think that's wrong. - Beryllium Oct 14, 11:46 13
      - I have been dragged to many a game. that is also not the point. The point is, I can meet generic "guys" anywhere. - loosilu Oct 14, 11:48 12
        
        and your current efficiency is...? -- nm - Reagen Oct 14, 11:58 2
        
        currently I am actively not looking. -- nm - loosilu Oct 14, 11:58 1
        
        Oh, OK, I'll stop wasting my breath then. Move along. -- nm - Beryllium Oct 14, 11:59
        
        But I just said that it's a fallacy to equate similarity with compatibility -- nm - Beryllium Oct 14, 11:54 6
        
        I don't know what compatibility is for me. (truth). Similarity at least gives something to talk about besides the weather. -- nm - loosilu Oct 14, 11:55 5
        
        I get that it's a comfort zone thing. But the strategy should be to get them to talk, and for you to listen. -- nm - Beryllium Oct 14, 11:57 1
        
        no, that IS my comfort zone. I want something else. -- nm - loosilu Oct 14, 11:58
        
        Doesn't the baseball game thing usually come up when you're complaining about not knowing where to find men? - Will Hunting Oct 14, 11:56 2
        
        I can and do meet generic men at all of those places. -- nm - loosilu Oct 14, 11:57 1
        
        What I need (if I were looking) is a filter. -- nm - loosilu Oct 14, 12:01
        
        There are drinks there, fresh air, better lighting than a bar, ample time for conversation... -- nm - Vermintown Oct 14, 11:51 1
        
        also true at multiple other places. -- nm - loosilu Oct 14, 11:51
Think of it as sprucing up your resume. Once you're in the door, who you were before makes little difference. -- nm - Max Oct 14, 11:39
Who's advocating being fake? (nm) - musubi Oct 14, 11:36 1
- I don't think anyone is, really. - znufrii Oct 14, 11:45
That's just living. If you hadn't tried it, you would have been left wondering "what if" -- nm - con_carne Oct 14, 11:35
biology is a significant force when you're younger. -- nm - Mel Profit Oct 14, 11:35
Not everyone is actually always sure of who they are. -- nm - Reagen Oct 14, 11:33 2
- also, i think you have to try new things with people that suggest them because otherwise you never would do anything new. - Andie Oct 14, 11:36 1
  - "I hate your beard." (nm) - Cameron Oct 14, 11:40
Eh, fun to date the stripper. Not to settle down with them. -- nm - Spawn Oct 14, 11:33
Every relationship is a compromise, right? So 'marketing' yourself to meet someone is just a little pre-commitment adjustment to their lifestyle. - Vermintown Oct 14, 11:32 7
- I don't think misrepresenting yourself to get a mate is the same as compromising in a relationship... -- nm - znufrii Oct 14, 11:35 5
  - [shrug] Pretending to like my wife's spaghetti more than I actually do could be labelled 'misrepresentation', I suppose. - Vermintown Oct 14, 11:39 2
    - pretending to like your wife's spaghetti is not the type of thing that represents one's overall character so much, though. -- nm - znufrii Oct 14, 11:42 1
      - Fair enough, but I don't think pretending to enjoy playing Danzig at a higher volume than usual is either. - Vermintown Oct 14, 11:47
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    - I'm going to pretend this comment isn't pointed at me directly. :) - znufrii Oct 14, 11:38
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and "ended badly" addresses yesterday's point. why be fake? like, I like danzig, but I am not a blaring music outside girl.

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