LYC: So I debated posting this but could perhaps use perspective...
Posted by
oblique (aka kkuphal)
Oct 15 '10, 08:24
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So I've posted from time to time of the problems my wife has had with her job at our church, especially with her supervisors. The latest situation she's in is that there is no one in her supervisor position and she's filling in and taking over the duties of what probably could be a three person department. There's a decent possibility that she could step up a bit and take over permanently some of those duties but no decision has been made and I think if she doesn't end up in a role of that nature it's going to crush her since that happened once already about a year ago when her previous supervisor was fired and they hired someone new over her after she filled in temporarily. Anyways...
She's been working considerable hours, very stressed, etc. One thing she's been working on is a script for our Christmas musical which she ended up writing basically from scratch. Now I don't know all the details on who exactly gets input but certainly there is some times to our Children's Ministry head who leads our Sunday School program which is involved to a certain degree in that the kids usually participate in a song during the show. Last night my wife forwards the script to this person and notes on the script that they have a meeting scheduled Monday to discuss. Today (my wife also doesn't work on Fridays) gets an email response to the tone that basically "got the script, when can we meet to discuss". Her initial reactions to me on the phone regarding were both "How stupid do you have to be? We already have a meeting scheduled on Monday and I'm off today" and "I guarantee that she's going to rip the script apart"
Well, here comes the rub (thanks for listening). She stops by the church today just to drop off some paperwork and scoot out. While there, someone else brings up this dept. head's purse from a room where she accidently left it. My wife sees the aforementioned script sticking out of an outside pocket and chooses to take a peek and finds (in her words) 50% of the script marked up with changes.
Now again, I don't know how much this person is supposed to be involved in the creation of the script. My impression is that it's peripheral and in no way did this person provide input into the actual creation but may have been involved in some of the decisions around the production. I had taken the slant with my wife that while I understood her reaction, it really boiled down to how much that person was supposed to be involved in the content and if there was no expectation, she should be very clear when they meet that while she appreciates her input, it really isn't her decision to be made. Regardless my wife was pretty offended and I got the feeling she didn't really feel my take on it was exceptionally helpful. I'm sure she wanted a partner in her outrage.
Here's my problem. I really think she brought this on herself very specifically by taking that script out of the woman's belongings. Call it karma or whatever but even in my religious beliefs, the consequences she's going to incur here are going to be a result of that action. I appreciate the desire to not be blindsided during the meeting on Monday but it really seems wrong to me.
So...I'm sure she'll be far more rational about it later today but I'm struggling with whether I should be up front and say "Look, I love you, but that wasn't right and you're going to feel some pain as a result probably because we both know it was the wrong thing to do" or if I just need to let it go as I'm sure she's already aware of that. I dunno.
Anyways, thanks for reading
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