Meredith's Love Letters Response to: I'm a Blane and I'm Dating an Andie...
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Diva (aka Diva)
Oct 15 '10, 11:43
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This is tough for me because I never understood why Andie stayed with Blane. I always thought she should have dropped him for Duckie. I mean, the guy rode his bike past her house, bonded with her down-and-out father, and wooed her by lip-synching "Try a Little Tenderness." Meanwhile, Blane makes Andie go to that awful party with Steff and then ditches her on prom. How do you forgive that?
Now I'm getting upset. Sorry.
BM, if you suspect that you'll resent having a partner who doesn't prioritize a certain standard of living, you're probably right. He's not going to change his values and you're not going to change yours. Unless you can say, "I want to be with him no matter what because I'm sold on this guy and we can compromise," you shouldn't force it.
And for the record, your priorities don't make you shallow or a gold digger. You're just self-aware about what you need to be happy.
But know this: not every guy who shares your vision of the future will be as kind as your Andie. You might find that some of those other guys are Steffs -- that they have great jobs but wear horrible white blazers and have bad attitudes. You just have to decide whether you're willing to risk losing the good with the bad.
In real life, by the way, there's no way Andie and Blane would have wound up together. They would have broken up when Blane went to college. I'm sure of it.
I'm glad you�re acknowledging your real-life priorities. Only you know how big of a deal this is to you. But know that if you stay with Andie, he's going to be Andie forever. Don't assume you can turn him into an Andie with a Steff salary. It just won
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