ST Alpha - "boston.com love letters: He Sleeps On the Couch" (Reading a Post)

SlickerTalk
Search Archives
The Leaderboard
The FAQ

Down to Post

Backboards:

Posts: 153

boston.com love letters: He Sleeps On the Couch

Posted by Diva (aka Diva) Oct 18 '10, 13:24

I have a problem that I have been dealing with for years. My husband falls asleep on the couch every night. I have tried to tell him that he should come up to bed. That is where couples get close, and most couples I know sleep together.

What aggravates me most is that sometimes he will come up to bed in the morning only to try to "get together." This makes me feel used. He also prefers "alone time." I feel he takes the time to watch his "movies" but will not make the effort to come to bed. I feel unloved and unwanted.

� Unloved, Boston

Responses:

He says he wants "alone time"! Leave him be! -- nm - Dr.Vermin Oct 18, 13:37
I think she gives it up to him sometimes in those odd hours. She needs to stop doing that. - Lon_cHaneY Oct 18, 13:33 2
- 'gives it up to him'? their sex life should be based on what they both want. not on what she wants any more than it is on what he wants. - Andie Oct 18, 13:34 1
  - *ding* to your IM -- nm - kilbooooo Oct 18, 13:35
Just a sidenote, I hear more and more couples having seperate bedrooms - amoxy Oct 18, 13:31 8
- If sleeping apart is the wrong direction, then what is the right direction? ... oh. - Beryllium Oct 18, 13:37
- one couple on my ball team has separate bedrooms for sleep reasons. he snores, no matter what, she could not sleep through it. - Andie Oct 18, 13:33 2
  - it's the onlly reason I can think of as to why some couples sleep in separate quarters -- nm - CQ Oct 18, 13:35
  - i have no idea how my mother deals with my stepdad's snoring. none. -- nm - TFox Oct 18, 13:34
- but if one has a major snoring issue, or porn issue, or something, I can understand it. -- nm - CQ Oct 18, 13:33 1
  - "I can't sleep in the same bed as you if you're going to be filming porn all night" -- nm - hachiko Oct 18, 13:35
- I blame subprime mortgages. People are buying bigger houses. -- nm - mara Oct 18, 13:33 1
  - : D -- nm - Andie Oct 18, 13:35
she let it go too long. she's lost her right to bitch. -- nm - chromanda Oct 18, 13:30 5
- how many times is too many? - hachiko Oct 18, 13:33
- I also hate the assumption that (and perhaps not in her case) if she was to go to bed at 9pm that he has to end his day -- nm - kilbooooo Oct 18, 13:32 3
  - Yeah, this one is where we are. She goes to bed around ten, but I'm never in bed until midnight. - Name Withheld By Request Oct 18, 13:36 2
    - And there's no, "Wake me up when you come to bed [wink]"? -- nm - mara Oct 18, 13:37 1
      - Do you really want to be woken up from a couple hours of sleep to be sexed up? -- nm - kilbooooo Oct 18, 13:37
By "movies" does she mean pron? - musubi Oct 18, 13:29 1
- uh-huh. -- nm - Beryllium Oct 18, 13:30
Is she putting the word movies in quotation marks because they are directed by Michael Bay? -- nm - Qale Oct 18, 13:29 2
- she also put "getting together" in quotes so... -- nm - kilbooooo Oct 18, 13:29 1
  - "wash my car!" -- nm - Michael Bay Oct 18, 13:31
wah wah wah. Who gives a rat's ass. -- nm - CQ Oct 18, 13:28 2
- I dig the new Surly CQ. - Mel Profit Oct 18, 13:29 1
  - hee -- nm - CQ Oct 18, 13:30
put bedbugs in the couch -- nm - hachiko Oct 18, 13:26
I'm so glad my wife is so zonked out tired when she decides to go to bed she could not care less if I joined her. I'm also smart enough - kilbooooo Oct 18, 13:26
Maybe getting close without sex makes him feel used. Maybe the couch is awesomely comfortable. -- nm - Max Oct 18, 13:26
Feeling unloved and unwanted is a result of a lot more than where he sleeps. -- nm - mara Oct 18, 13:26
Sleep next tohim on the couch. -- nm - Will Hunting Oct 18, 13:25

Post a message top

boston.com love letters: He Sleeps On the Couch

Replies are disabled on threads older than 7 days.