LYC: WoW-guildie and I talked it out, sort of.
Posted by
Tim (aka othertim)
Nov 21 '10, 18:10
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She admits that what she did to me was selfish and hurtful and claims she's not proud of it (though at the same time seems happier than she's been as long as i've known her)
Her interest in me was the catalyst for finally realizing she wasn't happy with her loser boyfriend, whereas she had spent the previous three years up to that point waiting for a ring. The fact that there was something between us despite her having a boyfriend freaked us both out and it resulted in her pulling away from me and (i'm theorizing) led her to friend zoning me some time in the last few months. i wanted to push this more but i was tired when we were talking last night. (i wanted to say one thing before going to bed and we ended up talking for an hour.)
she's aware that the new loser she's "dating" is young and can be blunt and condescending to anyone, especially those who attempt to disagree with him about something. i'm worried that he'll change her as he's got a very strong cult of personality. she claims she didn't change for loser boyfriend in five years, the new one won't change her either.
I've also made her aware that this is the therapist falling in love with the patient (she had vented to him about how unhappy she was with her loser boyfriend in the weeks leading up to their breakup) and also smacks of her actually leaving loser boyfriend for the new loser boyfriend. She swears that the new one had nothing to do with it and her breakup was mutual.
she says she doesn't know where the new relationship will even go. (Hopefully nowhere.)
i'm a terrible person who refuses to learn a lesson, so part of me will always be in love with her. but another part of me will also always be very angry with her. i'm doing my best to put both of those parts away and move on to enjoy being with my friend again.
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