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Serious question. And I know the dynamics of coming out to ones family is unique to each family, but would you maintain contact

Posted by TWuG Dec 22 '10, 13:45

with your family if they made it clear that being who you are could get you disowned?

Is family contact important enough to you to either hide or deny aspects of who you are to maintain that contact?

For me I don't think it is. I love my parents but if they had the attitude that some aspect of my life was worthy of being disowned over I'd be honest with them and take whatever response they gave. If they disowned me it would be their loss, not mine.

This isn't meant as a "geez, you're dumb if you wouldn't do the same" comment. I'm curious what drives people to maintain relationships like that and I know there are perfectly valid reasons.

My wife danced to her dad's tune for years because the tradeoff was acceptable for awhile.

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Probably, just because I am already very lousy at keeping in contact with my very nice family. -- nm - Roger More Dec 22, 13:54
Family isn't as all-important a pull as it used to be. - con_carne wants it so bad Dec 22, 13:51
It's sort of impossible to answer, because my family would never disown me, so I'd need to imagine a different family. -- nm - TFox Dec 22, 13:50
My Story - MDH Dec 22, 13:50 22
- This makes me so sad. I'm surprised you even subject yourself to family Christmas - ty97 Dec 22, 13:56
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  - Thanks, as a perspective this is the e-mail my father sent me on my birthday. - MDH Dec 22, 13:53 19
    - Your mantra should become: "Just because they're my parents it doesn't make them good people". Also, tell them you're planning to adopt a crack baby - Trish Dec 22, 14:17
    - Wait. Were you doing drugs? Did you kill someone? Are you on the run? - JaxSean Dec 22, 14:11
    - so sorry. that is just awful. But you have your ST family now. -- nm - decline Dec 22, 14:07
    - Also, his usage of punctuation and capital letters is total bullshit. -- nm - TFox Dec 22, 14:05
    - Good lord. I can't imagine what that felt/feels like. I'm sorry. -- nm - Mel Profit Dec 22, 14:04
    - Fuck. Him. -- nm - David Dec 22, 14:04
    - hoo boy. nm - Dignan Dec 22, 14:01
    - My mom had a somewhat similar reaction when my little bro came out to her. - con_carne wants it so bad Dec 22, 14:01
    - that is rough, I hope they come to their senses soon - best wishes -- nm - crash davis Dec 22, 13:58
    - There are no words to convey how angry that letter makes me. - TWuG Dec 22, 13:58
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    - wowzers. How can he be in that much denial? -- nm - ty97 Dec 22, 13:58
    - dang that is so rough - I simply can't imagine -- nm - Epiphany Dec 22, 13:58
    - good lord, dude. -- nm - TFox Dec 22, 13:56
    - I'm so sorry. I'm so so sorry. ((((hugs))) -- nm - Diva Dec 22, 13:55
    - whoa. -- nm - santa loosia Dec 22, 13:55
    - *speechless* -- nm - znufrii Dec 22, 13:55 2
      - To everyone above, thank you very much, it means a lot. :-) - MDH Dec 22, 14:00 1
        
        Having met you only a short time, I saw a bright, funny, optimistic guy with a great future. - santa loosia Dec 22, 14:04
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No. - znufrii Dec 22, 13:46

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