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boston.com Love Letters: I Don't Want to be Creepy

Posted by Diva (aka Diva) Dec 22 '10, 13:45

Hi Meredith,

I'm in my late 40s and my wife passed away about seven years ago, leaving me with two young daughters. It's been a process, but through a lot of effort and (preemptive) counseling, I think all of us are fairly stable. Basically I don't take any day for granted, and through telework and judicious vacation leave I'm there for my kids as much as possible.

I haven't pursued anything romantically in this time. I'm just trying to get a handle on single parenting while honoring my wife's legacy. While I think I'm more ready now, I'm concerned that my romantic instincts are way off.

I bring this up because I think my daughter's teacher from last year, "Cindy", has said some odd things. Cindy's about 28, and very lively and energetic. This is someone who isn't lacking for people to "friend" her, as the Facebookians would say.

I volunteered last year in my daughter's class. Cindy said at the end that she'd love for me to come in again for her kids this year, which was just polite talk. But I saw her again at a function, and she reiterated that and suggested we meet for coffee to lay out a plan. Later in the evening we were talking with a group of people, and she seemed eager to note how she would love to see an art exhibit I said I might try to see at my lunchtime. It just seemed like there might be something there.

Thing is, I find myself starting to think about Cindy. I can't believe she'd be interested in me given the complications in my life and the options she must have. I just don't have the flexibility to court her as you normally would expect, as that takes time from my kids. So, what do I do? Is this just a fantasy I have, one that's normal for a widower getting ready to move on? Or might there be something there? I just don't want to come off as some sort of creep, so my inclination is to put this out of my mind. Thank you for any thoughts you have.

� Wondering, New Jersey

Diva sez: I don't think you sound creepy at all. You sound like a sweet person.

Responses:

"Your stepmom's cute." "Shut up, Ted." "Remember when she was a senior and we were freshmen?" -- nm - Max Dec 22, 14:06 2
- Someone in my 8th grade class ended up marrying our hot lit teacher many years later. - TFox Dec 22, 14:07
- Most triumphant. -- nm - David Dec 22, 14:06
Once he doesn't show up to her school and start exposing himself, he should be ok. -- nm - Loyola Dec 22, 14:05
I've known guys that indecisive, like the governor of...New *Jersey*! -- nm - Gov. Patterson Dec 22, 13:59
now if your 18-year-old daughter's friend was the one hitting on you, *that* would be creepy. This? No way... -- nm - znufrii Dec 22, 13:57 1
- I was dreading this type of swerve to the story. -- nm - Mel Profit Dec 22, 13:59
Yeah, he's way overthinking it and I think it's because he's scared. Also, he should get some grief counseling. It's been 7 years. - Trish Dec 22, 13:55
Bro, you were doing so well until yor last paragraph. - con_carne wants it so bad Dec 22, 13:54
he sounds sweet. that said, I think there's a good chance he's misreading it. -- nm - santa loosia Dec 22, 13:53
I can understand why, but this dude is an over thinker. -- nm - CQ draped in tinsel Dec 22, 13:53
he is way over thinking things -- nm - Epiphany Dec 22, 13:51
In his shoes, I'd be intimidated by starting off with the 20 yr age gap. But I'd get over it. Because yo... - TFox Dec 22, 13:49 15
- yeah, that's a problem right there. -- nm - santa loosia Dec 22, 13:54 8
  - Challenge.....challenge. - Will Hunting Dec 22, 13:54 7
    - it's a sticking point. -- nm - santa loosia Dec 22, 13:55 6
      - she seems over it. i'm sure he'll get over it *pretty* quickly. i don't think it's a big deal really. - TFox Dec 22, 13:57 5
        
        Yep, she's 28, apparently enjoys kids and seemingly wants to see what the deal is. - Will Hunting Dec 22, 13:58 3
        
        Also, it's amazing the way that age gap gets smaller the older they get. - Trish Dec 22, 14:02 2
        
        his feet isn't exactly what i want him to get wet. -- nm - TFox Dec 22, 14:04 1
        
        *laughing* -- nm - Loyola Dec 22, 14:08
        
        no harm in trying. -- nm - santa loosia Dec 22, 13:58
- yeah, but its the right age gap - its older woman and younger guy that is creepy - crash davis Dec 22, 13:51 5
  - -10 -- nm - Trish Dec 22, 13:58 4
    - since its a point for each minute of Real Housewives, I still have 38 more to lose before I watch another episode -- nm - crash davis Dec 22, 14:00 2
      - RHofBeverly Hills is on tomorrow. You're hot for Kyle. You'll be watching. -- nm - Trish Dec 22, 14:06 1
        
        Kyle is a dude's name, right? -- nm - Will Hunting Dec 22, 14:10
    - What's that snapping noise? -- nm - Beryllium Dec 22, 14:00
if he uses the word "Facebookians" in normal conversation, he's done -- nm - pixmas Dec 22, 13:49
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go to coffee and follow it up with an invitation to the art exhibit -- nm - crash davis Dec 22, 13:48
I think he's overthinking it and should give it a shot. Worse case, he's off his game and is mis-reading it....I don't think so....but could be. - Will Hunting Dec 22, 13:47
Go for it man -- nm - amoxy Dec 22, 13:47

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