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In response to
"Serious question. And I know the dynamics of coming out to ones family is unique to each family, but would you maintain contact"
by
TWuG
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My Story
Posted by
MDH (aka MDH)
Dec 22 '10, 13:50
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My parents have stated that when I date someone they would not be a part of my life, and I'm okay with that. I basically told them that is their choice and I am going to be happy in my own life, and that's what matters. I'm going to live my life the way I live it, and not worry about their input.
That said, my father and I do not speak, he said why wait till you date I should start now. It's been this way for 2 years and at this point it doesn't even bother me. I really don't mind. I've gone through the phase where it upset me, but why should it, it's my life and the purpose is to be happy, and I'm not going to make myself miserable. My mother and I speak on a regular basis but it's clearly more of the "how are you, just checking in" vibe. I guess we maintain this relationship because it doesn't harm either of us. I somehow think that she may eventually start to come around and maybe if she keeps some contact it is easier.
I don't really mind the grandparents not knowing to be honest. I'm not 100% sure why this is at the moment. Maybe if I were in a serious relationship it would differ.
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Responses:
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This makes me so sad. I'm surprised you even subject yourself to family Christmas
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ty97
Dec 22, 13:56
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Thanks, as a perspective this is the e-mail my father sent me on my birthday.
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MDH
Dec 22, 13:53
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Your mantra should become: "Just because they're my parents it doesn't make them good people". Also, tell them you're planning to adopt a crack baby
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Trish
Dec 22, 14:17
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Wait. Were you doing drugs? Did you kill someone? Are you on the run?
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JaxSean
Dec 22, 14:11
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so sorry. that is just awful. But you have your ST family now. -- nm
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decline
Dec 22, 14:07
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Also, his usage of punctuation and capital letters is total bullshit. -- nm
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TFox
Dec 22, 14:05
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Good lord. I can't imagine what that felt/feels like. I'm sorry. -- nm
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Mel Profit
Dec 22, 14:04
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Fuck. Him. -- nm
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David
Dec 22, 14:04
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hoo boy. nm
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Dignan
Dec 22, 14:01
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My mom had a somewhat similar reaction when my little bro came out to her.
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con_carne wants it so bad
Dec 22, 14:01
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that is rough, I hope they come to their senses soon - best wishes -- nm
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crash davis
Dec 22, 13:58
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There are no words to convey how angry that letter makes me.
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TWuG
Dec 22, 13:58
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wowzers. How can he be in that much denial? -- nm
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ty97
Dec 22, 13:58
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dang that is so rough - I simply can't imagine -- nm
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Epiphany
Dec 22, 13:58
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good lord, dude. -- nm
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TFox
Dec 22, 13:56
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I'm so sorry. I'm so so sorry. ((((hugs))) -- nm
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Diva
Dec 22, 13:55
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whoa. -- nm
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santa loosia
Dec 22, 13:55
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*speechless* -- nm
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znufrii
Dec 22, 13:55
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