Just because you're related to someone doesn't mean you *have* to like them or even associate with them.
Posted by
CovingtonCat
Dec 22 '10, 15:43
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This I learned after years of drama with my mother & her family and then with my step-father (a career military guy & *very* conservative).
She didn't like my friends and thought they were a bad influence on me. Plus there were the drugs - her drugs. The Stones wrote Mother's Little Helper about her. I finally had enough when she accused me of trying to ruin my stepfather's reputation. I told her if I wanted to ruin his reputation I would send 10 drag queens to the main gate of the base and have them demand to speak to their husband and then see what happened to his reputation.
We spoke twice after that and not again for 30+ years. I miss her cooking (she was German and liked to cook all kinds of cuisines in addition to German). I tracked her down earlier this year and sent her a short note. No reply.
When I hear about all the drama people "put up with" over the holidays I find I really don't regret cutting her off. She had a hard life growing up during the war. Her first husband screwed her over. Her new husband really loved her but not her kids so much. She made a choice. I made a choice. I can't undo anything and I don't think I would if I could.
But I do applaud those who keep trying to make family problems better. But for me I reached my limit. Enough was enough.
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