meredith's Love Letters response to: "2 Hrs. is a Reeeeeeeeal Long Time".
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Diva (aka Diva)
Dec 23 '10, 10:21
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"Does it make sense that if we care for each other enough we should be able to stay together and work these things out?" Sure. You only live two hours away from her. And from what I can tell, you're not in school. That means you can get in a car (or on a bus) and meet her as often as you need to. You had five months with this woman. That's not a lifetime, but it's certainly long enough to know that you feel strongly about her.
Santa would probably tell you go follow your heart because he's a total sap. And I am, too, for the most part. You've gone out of your way to sabotage this relationship, and it's just not working for you. Your maturity level needs to catch up to your heart and gut.
There is a way to keep her. Just sit down with her and map out how you can see each other more often. Maybe concoct a plan to live in the same place as soon as possible. Then, put up with the temporary distance. If she's worth it, she's worth it.
The whole "taking a break" thing is pretty cowardly. You seem to want to play pretend to see if you can handle losing her. If your feelings for this woman are really about her -- not just about having any old girlfriend -- getting rid of her won't make you feel any better. You'll just have none of her instead of some of her.
Readers? What does he really want? What is the solution here? After five months, should he be ready to come up with a plan to close the distance gap? Is the distance so bad? Discuss.
� Meredith
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