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In response to "Okay, so, what would you do, ST? (long story inside)" by kelly

(Wow, these answers surprise me, to be honest.)

Posted by kelly (aka kelly) Feb 16 '11, 18:47

So far the only person who told me I should be there "no matter what" is Will.

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I say go. And this isn't meant in a bad way, but it sounds like it sounds like in addition to it being important to you to be there for - Stephen, Most Miserable Poster in America Feb 16, 19:15 1
- Wow, I really mangled that post. -- nm - Stephen, the Most Miserable Poster in America Feb 16, 19:17
Let me answer from the perspective of the patient. - David Feb 16, 18:57 26
- Well, I'm actually going to say yes. - Kim Pine Feb 16, 19:00 22
  - I love this post. -- nm - mud Feb 16, 19:17
  - After talking this over with Kim and hearing some stuff for the first time about my stay, I'm switching my vote. -- nm - David Feb 16, 19:10
  - I won't be able to be there long-term for him, though. At most, I'll be able to stay 2 days, but more likely only 1. - kelly Feb 16, 19:03 8
    - what day of the week is his surgery? -- nm - TFox Feb 16, 19:11 7
      - Monday. -- nm - kelly Feb 16, 19:12 6
        
        ok, then my vote is, surgery Monday, in ICU til Wednesday where he'll have more nurse and family attention than on a normal inpatient floor... - TFox Feb 16, 19:25 5
        
        I second this more things considered. -- nm - Will Hunting Feb 16, 19:38 4
        
        The next Sunday is my mother's birthday, so maybe I'd be able to give her a break as her birthday present! :) -- nm - kelly Feb 16, 19:40 3
        
        More and more, i think this is the better option hon. - Will Hunting Feb 16, 19:44 2
        
        The whole thing is stressful, I just don't know. - kelly Feb 16, 19:52 1
        
        I understand. - Will Hunting Feb 16, 20:00
  - i also agree with Kim here. - TFox Feb 16, 19:03 10
    - Don't forget it's ICU...that's a different case from my experience with mom. -- nm - Will Hunting Feb 16, 19:04 9
      - meaning what? -- nm - kelly Feb 16, 19:04 8
        
        ICU: Typically 1 to 1 patient to nurse ratio. Some of the good nurses don't leave the bed. ICUs also have strict visitation so you may want to ask - James Bond (aka Igor) Feb 16, 19:08
        
        ICU's normally a lot more strict on visitation.... - Will Hunting Feb 16, 19:07 6
        
        Yeah, but what about your mom? - kelly Feb 16, 19:07 5
        
        My ICU experience is based on her stays there....that's why I mentioned her. -- nm - Will Hunting Feb 16, 19:13 1
        
        Okay. - kelly Feb 16, 19:22
        
        I'm just saying....if you go up to be part of this first 2-day oversee....if he's in the ICU...that's not quite the same thing from experience - Will Hunting Feb 16, 19:12 2
        
        Yeah, I would suggest she calls the hospital now and asks about the visitation policy for ICUs. They may or may not allow family to sleep over. -- nm - James Bond (aka Igor) Feb 16, 19:22 1
        
        This, when my aunt was dying of liver failure you were only allowed in for a few minutes at a time. Including her kids. - sycor Feb 16, 19:25
- I don't think my father will wind up having many visitors, to be honest. If he does, it will probably be short visits. The surgery is in Boston, about - kelly Feb 16, 18:59 2
  - fwiw, i had to call off the dogs with visitors for a few hours today because SheFox just needed sleep. - TFox Feb 16, 19:01 1
    - I have had this dilemma a few timesin the last few years. Sometimes with friends having babies, sometimes with friends who are sick. - loosilu Feb 16, 19:02
we're probably looking at it more practically than we would if the shoe was on the other foot - prayformojo Feb 16, 18:50
In fairness, I think we've been hitting him with the opposite advice for a while now, but the situations are different. -- nm - TFox Feb 16, 18:50 8
- My thought is simply that she's not 'there' but once or twice a year....this is a huge deal in the family - Will Hunting Feb 16, 18:52 4
  - if she really only gets a week for the next 4 months, i say it's important she makes a trip back. - TFox Feb 16, 18:54 2
    - I will probably do a few Friday night-to-Sunday-night flights or something, but at some point I'd like to spend at least 3 or 4 days total. - kelly Feb 16, 18:57
    - I can see your reasons...trust me I do. I know she wants to be there; I support what she wants. -- nm - Will Hunting Feb 16, 18:55
  - Time to move, what do you say? :p -- nm - kelly Feb 16, 18:53
- Well, at least I know I won't be written out of the will if I'm not there for the surgery or something. - kelly Feb 16, 18:51 2
  - That's fine...I'd rather be out of the will for not showing up at a surgery than for not being a good enough son by visiting often enough - Will Hunting Feb 16, 18:54 1
    - Depends on the day and who she was talking to... -- nm - kelly Feb 16, 18:56
I really don't know what I would do in either of your shoes. :( -- nm - Beryllium (iPhone) Feb 16, 18:49
I dunno, but I'd believe Meg and Landbeck about these things. :-) -- nm - mara Feb 16, 18:49

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